USE OF UNPLEASANT WORDS AND MISBEHAVIOUR ARE HORRIBLE, ENERGY AND LIFE KILLING, WHAT IS THE ANSWER AND/OR ESCAPE -the person who is addressed in hard and abusive language, does feel hurt to the extreme in the same manner as one gets hurt by a nail prick -it puts the receiving person in boiling anger, percing straight into his/her brain and heart -if it is seldom, reaction is as has been expressed above but if it is a ROUTINE and is daily habit of the one who is accusing and through such harsh and pricking words/language, the receiver does not bother and takes it as the habit of this person. -when it is taken as a routine by the receiver, he/she does not care and bothers the least and believes/acts that this person barks all the time and let him/her bark as loud and as many times as he/she wishes and that I will get to him/her at my convenience and shall say that I never heard his/her call and/or was extremely busy etc.. -in conclusion shouting and using abusive language all the time as a habit, it has no effect at all, results in disobedience and the receiver is not affected at all. BETTER IF SOME WORK IS TO BE GOT DONE, ALWAYS REMAIN POLITE AND EXPLAIN IN THE LANGUAGE AND IN THE MANNER WHICH DOES NOT AFFECT THE RECEIVER, RATHER ENCOURAGES HIM/HER TO DO THE OB AS ASKED FOR. -MISBEHAVIOUR is another vice, full of arrogance and believing and accepting that the other person is worth nothing, does not understand anything, gentlemanliness does not bring in the desired result/action and it is only when he/she is shouted upon and even slapped from time to time, he/she does the job as required. -the receiver many a times in order to avoid, shall hide and/or loiter here and there.. HENCE IN ANSWER IT IS ESSENTIAL TO EXPLORE AND SEARCH SOME OTHER ALTERNATIVES THAN SHOUTING, USING ABUSIVE LANGUAGE ETC.WITHOUT REALISING THAT SUCH AN ACT AND BEHAVIOUR IS GOING TO AFFECT ONE’S OWN HEALTH AND ALSO THAT THE RECEIVER BECOMES SO DIE HARD, THAT HE/SHE DOES NOT BORTHER AND AS SUCH THE JOB IS NEVER DONE. -in answer if such a person is a needy one, he/she will continue accepting all shouting etc. will be in search of job somewhere and when found, shall quit carrying a bad experience of life, may be in extreme situation if no job is found, the receiver may confront this shouting person especially when he/she finds the shouting person alone and will move out after avenging his/her revenge, in extreme it could happen is thrashing, stabbing and killing also. -must think over that the receiver is also a human being like him, though not in resources and status but certainly is a human being, being a needy person, that is why he/she has come to work. -let it not be forgotten, when such a person is annoyed by the shouting etc. all the time, he/she will certainly get frustrated and irritated, and since he/she will not be in peaceful state of mind, he/she will not be able to do good job rather will make blunder after blunder. Further it is possible that such a person who has developed the habit of shouting and using abusive language is confronted by his/her own family members, then what will happen, he/she can’t shunt his/her family members out and instead most of the time such a person whether he or she will be neglected, will lose all sympathy, respect etc. and will perhaps let him/her suffer in consequence of his/her behaviour and let him/her rot in regrets etc. -besides if such a person does not become conscious to change his/her habit and manner, he/she will continue suffering throughout rest of his/her life, and if INSTEAD he/she starts changing and finally changes to be a polite and kind person he/she will be appreciated, respected and obeyed for almost what he/she says and/or wishes for. IN CONCLUSION WHETHER THESE ARE HIS/HER OWN MEMBERS OR A WORKER, MAYBE THESE MAY TOLERATE SUCH A MISBEHAVIOUR OF SHOUTING AND USING ABUSIVE LANAGUAGE FOR SOME TIME, WHEN TOLERANCE WILL BE LOST, REVENGE WILL FLARE UP, WORST CAN HAPPEN INSTEAD HE/SHE WHO COMMES IN CONTACT WITH ALL THOSE WHETHER FAMILY MEMBERS OR OUTSIDERS, REMAINS POLITE, RESPECTFUL AND KIND TO CULTIVATE HARMONIOUS RELATIONS TO LIVE A CORDIAL AND PEACEFUL LIFE, DOES ENJOY THE LIFE IN REAL SENSE OF JOY AND HAPPINESS WITH FRIENDS AND EVERYONE IN THE SAME MANNER, AS IT IS SAID A FRIEND IN NEED, IS A REAL FRIEND INDEED. IN SHORT IT IS BETTER AND HELPFUL ALWAYS IF ONE CULTIVATES ONE’S MANNERS AND BEHAVIOUR TO REMAIN POLITE, GENTLE, RESPCTFUL ETC. ONE WILL SURELY ENJOY THE PURPOSE OF LIFE TO REMAIN HAPPY, JOLLY AND WORRIED THE LEAST. Perceived and narrated by vasdevloond, founder of cost free marriage bureau, titled Marriage Guidance New Concept: for queries, doubts and advice, available mostly from 10 am to 7 pm at mobile number 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriagguidance.in and facebook: faceebook.com/vasdevloond/.