-MOST DISTURBING AND EXTREKELY DIFFICULT TO FIND SOLUTION 1. MISUNDERSTANDING BY THE CHILD ABOUT DECISION TAKEN BY PARENTS FOR HIS/HER EDUCATION, ACTIVITY/VOCATION, MARRIAGE ETC. Answer: 1. let it not be forgotten that parents take decision as they think will be in the best interest of their son/daughter, not to forget emotional love and blood relationship dictate this and it is not questionable at all, neither in respect of love nor for the prospect of their child. 2 keeping the above in mind, parents take decision as per the circumstances, capabilities, attitude and habits of the child. 3. some time it also happens that parents feel that whatever their child is wanting or insisting upon is neither justified nor is reasonable, as such the parents go by their own views, believing that they have much more experience of life which their child is not having, possibly he/she is dreaming without taking the realities into account. 4. it is also possible that views of the husband and wife do not match, discussions go on and mostly the husband goes by the wishes of the wife. 5. in extreme it happens when the boy or girl love someone but the parents due to status, their reputation etc. do not agree with the views of their child and go about to take decision which they feel is in the best interest of their child. SOLUTIONS: 1. PARENTS MUST BELIEVE IN THEIR CHILD, GET INTO DISCUSSION, GIVE ALL SORTS OF REASONS, MINDFUL THAT THEY ARE NOT INSISTING OUT OF EGO, AND/OR TAKING THE CHILD AS AN INEXPERIENCED ONE. HENCE EXPLANATION AND PERSUASION ARE ESSENTIAL WITHOUT BRINGING IN EGO, OR FEELING THAT THEIR CHILD IS STILL A SMALL CHILD. 2. WHEN THE CHILD GETS ADULT, THE PARENTS MUST TRUST THEIR CHILD LET HIM/HER TAKE THE DECISION AS HE/SHE WISHES, PRERENTS SHOULD FEEL INSTEAD THAT THEY HAVE EXPLAINED OUT OF LOVE AND EXPERIENCE AND IF THE CHILD DOES NOT AGREE, LET HIM/HER GO IN HIS/HER OWN WAY AND FACE THE SITUATION AS IT SHALL UNVAIL HEREAFTER. 3. IF IT IS A QUESTION OF LOVE FOR MARRIAGE WITH SOMEONE, IF THE PARENTS FIND THAT THE LOVE OF THEIR CHILD HAS REACHED AN IRREVERSIBLE STAGE, IT WILL BE THE BEST NOT TO EXPRESS/COMMUNICATE THEIR VIEWS AS IF THE CHILD LISTENS TO THEM AND BREAKS THE RELATIONSHIP, POSSIBLY HE/SHE MAY NOT MARRY, BREAK RELATIONS WITH THE PARENTS ETC. HENCE THE ANSWER REMAINS NOT TO INTERFERE IF THE LOVE RELATIONS OF THEIR CHILD ESPECIALLY WHEN IT HAS REACHED AT ITS FINAL STAGE. 4. IT IS POSSIBLE THAT THE CHILD BEING ADULT THINKS THAT HIS/HER PARENTS DO NOT LIVE IN THE PRESENT LIFE AND PRESENT ENVIRONMENTS, AND ARE PERHAPS DREAMING IN THEIR PAST EXPERIENCE AND BELIEFS. In conclusion: I am of the view when the child becomes adult and wants to be on his/her own parents should politely and cautiously explain their child and if he/she does not agree and insists in his/her decision, it is all the more better and necessary that parents agree to the decision of their despite their child. As a point of caution, I would say it is father who should discuss with the child when it is reaching its final stage, as when both wife and husband will talk, there are more chances of denial and conflict. Hence separate discuss between the father and the child will possibly be more congenial and as such harmonious relations will remain intact. -further also the experience shows when the children are given free hand of what they want to do, possibly they may make mistakes and/or cause certain losses, such happenings will certainly give them experience, make them mature, and finally they will not only reap the desires results but will generally excel. AS AN EXAMPLE, let it also not be forgotten when the mother wants her child to learn walking, she sees the child falling, picks up the child, and makes him/her walk, despite even at time the child is weaping, the mother does all, that her child does not weap, but continues persisting that the child despite falling and weaping many times, does learn to walk and walk on his/her own. What a wonder when the same child starts walking, see how happy and successful and proud he/she feel about his/her adventure. -LET ME MAKE IT PLAINLY CLEAR TO THE PARENTS THAT THEY MUST NOT INSIST ABOUT THEIR VIEWS AND ALLOW, RATHER WITH BLESSINGS, THEIR CHILD TO DO WHAT HE/SHE WANTS. LET ME REMIND THE PARENTS THOSE WHO DO NOT ALLOW THEIR CHILD TO GO BY HIS/HER OWN WAY, ALL BLAMES FOR HIS/HER FAILURE WILL BE PUT ON THE PARENTS AND IT WILL REMAIN A CURSING POINT THROUGH WHOLE OF THEIR LIFE. GENERALLY IT HAPPENS SO IN CASE OF STUDIES, VOCATIONS, MARRIAGE ETC. -NEEDLESS TO FORGET, WHEN THE CHILD MAKES HIS/HER OWN DECISION, HE/SHE MAKES ALL EFFORTS THAT FAILURE DOES NOT HAPPEN, AND IF EVER IT HAPPENS, HE/SHE WILL NEVER BLAME THE PARENTS, CURSE HIMSELF/HERSELF AND POSSIBLY MAY FEEL INCLINED TO LISTEN TO HIS/HER PARENTS HEREAFTER. Rest of the points I will be answering one by one in the next write-ups. MESSAGE MARRIAGE GUIDANCE IS UNIQUE FOR REASONS:- 1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM 2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS. 3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA 4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs NOR AFTERWARD 5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS, IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY. 6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES. 7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK. 8. INTERESTED FOR COLLABORATION. CONTACTL9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. - MOST DISTURBING AND MOST DIFFICULT TO TO FIND SOLUTION 2ND POINT - MISUNDERSTANDING CREATED BY ALL THOSE WHO ARE NOT HAPPY TO SEE THE SMOOTH AND PROGRESSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND LIFE OF CONCERNED FAMILY/FAMILIES AND MORE OR LESS TAKE THEM AS FOES AND ENEMIES INVERTLY/ SECRETLY. REPLY: 1. MANY WHO CANNOT MAKE PROGRESS THEMSELVES THEY FEEL JEALOUS TO SEE PROGRESS OF OTHER(S) AND AS SUCH EMPLOY ALL MEANS TO PULL THEIR LEG MAKE THEM FALL, FOR EXAMPLE -COME AND ALL THE TIME TALK ILL OF THOSE WHOM ONE LOVES AND TRUSTS, TO INFLUENCE AND DERAIL. -MANAGE TO CREATE COMPANY OF SUCH PERSONS WITH THOSE WHO CLAIM TO BE HIS/HER FRIENDS AND AS SUCH USE ALL SUCH MEANS TO PROTECT HIM/HER TO SHOW SYMPATHY AND TO CREATE DISINTEREST OR WEAKEN ZEAL AND LOVE FOR HIS/HER STUDIES, VOCATION, AND THE LIKE. -MANAGE AND PERSUADE BY ALL MEANS TO PUT HIM/ HER IN THE COMPANY OF UNWANTED, MISCHIEVOUS AND MISCREANTS ETC. -MANAGE AND INFLUENCE BY ALL MEANS TO TEMPT TO PUT TO SOME EXHORBITANT AND UNAFFORDABLE IDEAS, PROJECTS ETC. WHICH APPARENTLY ARE QUICK PROFIT MAKERS, FOR EXAMPLE BETTING, GAMBLING, TAKING TO CASINOS ETC. -AND/OR TO CREATE STORIES AND ATMOSPHERE AS TO OVERPOWER ONE’S COMPETITORS AND AS SUCH DERAIL HIM/HER AND ENTHUSE HIM/HER TO GET INTO VARIOUS MEANS WHICH THOUGH COSTLY BUT APPEAR TO BRING IN THE REQUIRED RESULTS, NOT ONLY TO DESTROY ONE’S COMPETITOR(S) BUT INSTEAD TO MONOPOLISE IN HIS/HER ACTIVITY(IES). -IN NUTSHELL THE PURPOSE OF SUCH PERSONS REMAINS TO USE ALL MEANS TO SHIFT HIM/HER FROM HIS/HER ZEAL, INTEREST, LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, VOCATIONS, ACTIVITIES ETC. SO THAT SUCH PERSON DOES NOT SURPASS THEM . -IN SHORT IT IS HUMAN NATURE TO COVER UP ONE’S FAILURES, THEY ENJOY AND USE ALL SORTS OF MEANS TO ENSURE THAT HIS/HER PRESUMED FOE SUFFERS LOSSES, RELATIONSHIPS, INTEREST, GETS INTO BAD HABITS ETC. ETC. AND GETS DESTROYED, AND THEREAFTER TO INVENT STORIES AND NARRATE TALES THAT HE/SHE HAD BEEN TELLING AND WARNING SUCH PERSON NOT TO GET OVERAMBITIOUS AS THOSE DAYS ARE NOT FAR OFF WHEN THAT CONCERNED PERSON WILL SEE A MISERABLE FALL, AND BOAST THAT HE/SHE DID NOT LISTEN TO HIM/HER HOW MISERABLE HE/SHE HAS BECOME, I PITY HIM/HER A LOT, BUT CAN’T DO ANYTHING, AS IT IS ALL HIS/HER CREATION. Conclusion: when we all know that it is human nature to feel jealous of what our relatios and/or our competitors are having, then one needs to be cautions to remain away from such persons and/or the company of such persons which generally one will find in flatterers, mischief mongers, creating mistrust, break trust and confidence etc., create problems in the family. colleagues, friends etc. etc. Mind it, such persons are great talkers, great influencers, presumed sympathisers, informants about the secrets/strengths of others, they touch the emotions by all means. In order to discern and know about such persons, one will see that such persons will manage to come too close by fully knowing your weaknesses, carrying tales right or wrong, manage to befriend as most loyal and trustworthy etc. and when such a situation is created, exploitation and destruction will take place. HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL TO AVOID THE COMPANY OF THOSE WHO LEAVE THEIR OWN WORK AND TRY TO COME CLOSER TO YOU BY TALKING OR CONCOTING STORIES ETC. Hence in conclusion it is essential to remain conscious, intelligent, avoid talking and/disclosing secrets which generally seem to be disclosed to those who frequent to meet him/her and talk all over to exploit your weaknesses by all means. MESSAGE MARRIAGE GUIDANCE IS UNIQUE FOR REASONS:- 1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM 2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS. 3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA 4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs NOR AFTERWARD 5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS, IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY. 6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES. 7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK. 8. INTERESTED FOR COLLABORATION. CONTACTL9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com 17-2-24
POINT 5
-VISIBLE PARENTS BEHAVIOUR ALD LEANING TOWARD THE WEAKER ONE
THAN THE ONE WHO IS HARD WORKING AND IS WELL SETTLED.
-ANSWER
-THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT PARENTS GENERALLY FAVOUR THE WEAKER ONE
WHY IT IS SO?
-IT IS DUE TO THE FACT THAT OTHER ONES WHO ARE HARD WORKING AND ARE
WELL SETTLED, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THE WEAKER ONE, DESPITE WHATEVER REASONS
LIKE HE DOES NOT CONCENTRATE IN STUDIES,. MANAGES TO DO BE MOST CLOSE
TO MOTHER AND DOES ALL WHATEVER TERTIARY JOBS ARE GIVEN BY HIS MOTHER
AND AS SUCH ENJOYS FAVOURS OF THE MOTHER
-GENERALLY IT HAPPENS WITH THE YOUNGEST ONE MOSTLY BECAUSE BY THAT TIME
THE FAMILY REACHES A COMFORTABLE LIVING, AS SUCH THE YOUNGEST ONE GETS
SPOILT WITH THE RICHESSE OF THE FAMILY AND STRUGGLES THE LEAST.
-POSSIBLY ONE OF THE CHILDREN IS BORN WITH SOME WEAKNESSES AND/OR HANDICAPS.
-AS THE STATUS OF THE CHILDREN DOES NOT REMAIN THE SAME, BUT PARENTS FEEL
THAT REST OF THE CHILDREN ARE COMPARATEIVELY WELL SETTLED AND ARE HARD
WORKING ENOUGH TO MANAGE THEIR OWN AFFAIRS.
-HENCE TO ENSURE A BETTER LIFE WHEN IT IS FELT THAT THIS CHILD IS NEITHER THAT
LABOURIOUS NOR IS INCLINED TO DO ANY HARD WORK, HAS THE LEAST INTEREST AND
LEAST CONCENTRATION TOWARDS WORK ETC. AND IN ORDER THAT SUCH A CHILD DOES NOT
REMAIN NEGLECTED, THE PARENTS DO ALL THAT THIS CHILD ALSO IS BROUGHT MORE
OR LESS IN THE SAME STATUS AS THEIR OTHER CHILDREN
-ALSO IN BELIEF IF THIS CHILD IS COMPARATIVELY BETTER OFF, IT WILL BE MOSTLY POSSIBLE
THAT HE WILL BE ABLE TO KEEP IF NOT LOVING, AT LEAST WORKING RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS
BROTHERS AND SISTERS AND IF SO HAPPENS, PARENS FEEL VERY HAPPY BY THEIR ACTION
AND PRUDENCE.
-BY THIS LEANING OF PARENTS TOWARDS THE WEAKER ONE, THE PARENTS FEEL IT IS THEIR
DUTY TO SEE THIS WEAKER ONE IS ALSO SETTLED PROPERLY AND THAT THEY ARE RELIEVED
OF THEIR WORRY ABOUT THIS WEAKER AND NOT HARD WORKING ONE.
CONSEQUENCES
-DUE TO PARENTS FAVOURABLE BEHAVIOUR TOWARDS THE WEAKER, THOSE WHO WORK HARD
AND ARE SETTLED ON THEIR OWN, DO FEEL THAT IT IS NOT CORRECT THAT PARENTS SHOULD
FAVOUR SUCH A SON WHO WHILES AWAY HIS TIME IN PLAY, AND/OR IN ENJOYING THE COMPANY
OF HIS FRIENDS, HARBOURING THE LEAST ANY GOOD WHILE MOST OF THE BAD HABITS HE LOVES
AND ENJOYS..
-AS SUCH THESE HARD WORKING CHILDREN FEEL THAT THEIR PARENTS ARE VICITIMISING THEM
AND ARE DEPRIING THEM OF THEIR DUE, IF NOT MORE.
-ALL THESE ARE REALITIES
-BUT AS THE PARENTS WANT TO SEE THE FAMLY UNITED AND WHICH IS POSSIBLE WHEN EACH
OF THEIR CHILD IS MORE OR LESS WELL SETTLED AND THAT IS WHY SUCH A THINKING OF PARENTS
ENFORCES THEM TO FAVOUR THE WEAKER ONE AND EVEN THE SPOILT ONE AS WELL.
-BESIDES PARENTS ALSO FAVOUR THE ONE WHO LIVES WITH THE PARENTS OR THE PARENTS LIVE
WITH HIM AND HE TAKES CARE OF THE PARENTS FOR ALL THERE NEEDS
-WHILE OTHERS BECAUSE THEY LIVE AWAY AT DIFFERENT PLACES FROM PARENTS BECAUSE OF
THEIR JOB, OR BECAUSE OF THEIR WIVES ATTITUDUES OR BECAUSE OF THEIR OWN
RESPONISIBILITIES AND ENGAGEMENTS
-IT BECOMES NATURAL THAT PARENTS WILL FAVOUR THE ONE WHO IS TAKING CARE OF THEM
AND WILL COMPARATIVELY FAVOUR MORE THIS ONE THAN OTHERS.
-NOW THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO HOW TO SETTLE THIS ISSUE?
-ANSWER SEEMS TO BE AS EXPLAINED HEREUNDER:
1. TO EXPLAIN TO THE HARD WORKING CHILDREN THAT AS PARENTS WE FEEL PROUD OF
YOU FOR YOUR CONTRIBUTION TO BRING IN PROGRESS TO THIS FAMILY AND ALSO HAVING
SETTLED YOURSELF ON YOUR OWN.
2. IT IS OUR WISH AND DESIRE AS WELL THAT YOUR BROTHER WHO IS SPOILT AND/OR WEAKER
FOR WHATEVER THE REASONS MAY BE, TO SEE AND ENSURE THAT HE DOES ENJOY
SOMEWHAT BETTER LIFE, AT LEAST TILL THE TIME WE ARE ALIVE.
3. FURTHER IF THE FAMILY IS UNITED, IT GIVES PRESTIGE IN SOCIETY, RALATIONS ETC. AS TO
HOW MARVELOUSLY WE HAVE MANAGED OUR HOUSE AND KEPT THE FAMILY UNITED AND
LOVING.
4. THE MORE YO UWILL REMAIN UNITED, ONE DOES NOT KNOW WHAT COULD HAPPEN
TOMORROW, IN DIFFICULT SITUATION, FAMILIAL AND/OR FINANCIAL ETC. THIS IS THE FAMILY
WHICH COMES FIRST FOR THE HELP AND TO REDRESS THE SITUATION. HENCE WE AS PARENTS
THINK AND BELIEVE THAT YOU ALL REMAIN UNITED AS BEST AS YOU CAN.
5. THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS LISTENED TO US, HAVE BEEN AND ARE
OBEDIENT AND HAVE DONE YOUR BEST TO ENSURE THAT WE REMAIN HAPPY, WE AS SUCH
DEMAND YOUR SACRIFICE FOR OUR SAKE TO ALLOW US TO COMPENSATE YOUR WEAKER/
SPOILT BROTHER.
6. THERE IS ALL PROBABILITY AND FEELING THAT WITH DUE EXPLANATION AND EMOTIONAL
EXPRESSION, PARENTS ARE ALLOWED TO GO BY THEIR DECISION AS THEY WANT.
-SUPPOSE BY ALL SUCH EFFORTS, REST OF THE CHILDREN INSIST AND DO NOT AGREE, THEN WHAT
COURSE OF ACTION IS LEFT TO THE PARENTS:
-EXCEPT THAT AFTER DISTRIBUTION OF THEIR ASSETS PROPORTIONATELY AS PER CONTRIBUTION
DONE BY EACH OF THE CHILD, WHATEVER IS LEFT AS THEIR CHARE, THEY CAN GIVE ALL OR A
PORTION OF IT TO THE WEARKER/SPOILT CHILD IN A MANNER THAT HE GETS A FIXED INCOME
EVERY MONTH, MAYBE THROUGH FIXED DEPOSITS, BONDS, RENT ETC. ETC.
-IT IS PREFERABLE THAT THE PARENTS MUST KEEP TO THEMSELVES WHATEVER THEY THINK THEY
NEED FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFE AND GIVE THE BALANCE TO THEIR WEAKER CHILD.
-IF THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH RESOURCES TO TAKE SUCH A DECISION, THEN IT IS BETTER FOR THEM
TO MAKE A LEGAL VERDICT/WILL AND GET IT REGISTERED THAT SO LONG AS THEY LIVE, EITHER
THIS THIS CHILD WILL BE KEEPING THEM WITH HIM AND IF NOT, WILL BE PROVIDING A CERTAIN
AMOUNT OF MAINTENANCE TO THEM
-OR BETTER WILL BE THAT THROUGH LEGAL AGREEMENT, THEY GIVE THEIR SHARE TO THIS WEAKER
CHILD AND IN THE MEANTIME WHATEVER INCOME IS COMING FROM THEIR ASSETS, THEY PASS ON
TO THE WEAKER ONE AFTER KEEPING WITH THEM WHAT THEY NEED FOR THEIR LIVING AND THAT
AFTER THEIR DEATH, WHATEVER IS LEFT BY THEM, GOES AUTOMATICALLY THIS SPECIFIED CHILD..
MESSAGE
1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM
2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS.
3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION
OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA
4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs
NOR AFTERWARD
5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC
OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS,
IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY.
6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES.
7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK.
POINT …… 3
-DAUGHTER IN-LAW AND MOTHER IN-LAW DO NOT GO WELL IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP
AND IT HAPPENS QUITE OFTEN.
REASONS;
1. MOTHER IN-LAW’S EXPECTATIONS ARE TOO HIGH
2. UNDERSTANDING DOES NOT MATCH
3. MOTHER IN-LAW TAKES AND TREATS HER AS
AN OUTSIDER, AVOIDS AND TALKS TO HER SON
AND OTHER MEMBERS OF HER OWN FAMILY SECRETLY
4. THINKS THAT HER DAUGHTER IN-LAW IS MONOPOLISING
AND DISTANCING HER SON FROM HER
5. DAUGHTER IN-LAW HAS NOT TURNED OUT TO BE OF HER
EXPECTATIONS
6. DAUGHTER IN-LAW HAS TURNED OUT AS A BURDEN THAN
A RELIEF
7- ATTITUDE, BEHAVIOUR AND RELATIONSHIP OF DAUGHTER IN-LAW’S
PARENTS
8. INSTIGATIONS BY DAUGHTERS OF MOTHER IN-LAW, RELATIONS AND
AND EVEN BY OUTSIDERS.
9. JOULESY, WHICH IS QUITE COMMON IN THE WOMEN FOLK.
10 AT TIMES, THE VERY APPEARANCE AND IMAGE OF DAUGHTER IN-LAW
HER MOTHER IN-LAW DOES NOT LIKE
11. FEELS AND THINKS THAT HER DAUGHTER IN-LAW DOES NOT BOTHER
ABOUT HER NOR RELIEVES HER IN ANY MANNER.
12. LACK OF DOWRY. GIFTS OFT AND ON FROM DAUGHER IN-LAW’S PARENTS
13 IN SHORT WHEN NEGATIVE ATTITUDE DEVELOPS BETWEEN MOTHER IN-LAW
AND DAUGHTER IN-LAW, THERE IS NEVER AN END TO IT.
THEN WHAT COULD BE THE POSSIBLE ANSWERS, IS THE QUESTION;
1. these conflicts have got reduced a lot due to
a. education
b. living in micro unit
c. living in small family, parents, husband and wife, preferable still,
none else, if one brother is there, he needs to be unmarried
d. daughers in the family if any, are married and are not living with
parents
2. if girl is coming from a joint family to another joint family, she already
carriesthe training of households and adjustment.
3. if the girl is coming from a micro unit, it is better that she gets married
married in a family of micro and nuclear status.
4. if the boy is already living independently separate from parents, preferably
in another city, country etc., rare are the chances for conflict after marriage.
5. even if there is not much understanding between the 2 families, it is essential
that parents do all to guidance and explanation as to what are the problems
which arise out of such conflicts, which shall affect the health, financial resources
perhaps clashes all the time, hence better it is to do all to adjust, search and
ask the requirements of the mother in-law and as such take all initiatives to
handle her mother in-law independently, you have seen how do we live and
adjust not only as husband and wife but with our in-laws on both sides.
6. parents also tell their girl that always initial stage from one family to another
is difficult, those girls who manage to observe the attitudes, behaviours and
requirements of the in-law family, in particular mother in-law, such girls manage
to adjust, let it also not be forgotten if there are some issues, let you give a helping
hand and manage to adjust, believing that all new environments need accommodation
understanding and adjustment and within a short time, everything gets normal.
7. if the girl is working, it gets easier financially by keeping a maid, if one can manage,
a full time one who takes care of all the needs of the mother in-law, as by the time
her son gets married, she is already in the age of minimum 50s, as such she needs
someone to take care of her, the better, hence full time maid arrangement will be
the better choice.
8. since the girl is working, besides she relieves the family of financial burden to some
extent, she thus generally finds a congenial and respectable atmosphere, besides
if there are some issues, both husband and wife do sort out those by sitting and discussing
in coffee house, restaurant etc. and sort out the issue, and when they reach their house, they
are calm, quiet and if ever any repulsive and conflicting situation is created, it is easily whiled
away and/or given the solution calmly and quietly.
BESIDES ALL SAID ABOVE, ROLE OF THE GIRL’S PARENTS PLAYS AN ESSENTIAL PART IN BUILDING
UP THE CONGENIAL RELATIONSHIP OF THEIR DAUGHTER AFTER MARRIAGE:
1. their own relations as husband and wife
2. how much time parents have given in the development of their daughter by listening to her
problems with her classmates in her study career, and giving advice thereof
3.their own relations with their inlaws vice versa
4.how much division of work is there in the house, and how
conveniently both husband and wife carry all those responsibilities
collectively and happily.
5. better give as much freedom to their daughter to make her own choice
as possible, which generally culminates into love and marriage thereof
and during that interval of love and marriage, almost all issues are settled
in advance.
6. the better the relationship girl’s parents keep with their daughter’s in-laws
the least will be the chances for conflicts.
7. guidance to the child by the parents remains a life long process, it is essential
they must assume that responsibility, listen to their daughter for all her issues
and suggest to her all possible answers of cooperation than getting into conflict
etc.
8. the better the relationship is kept by girl’s parents with their son in-law, better
will turn out congenial and happier environments in the house of their son-law
.IN SHORT HUMAN MIND IS UNPREDICTABLE, ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN ANY TIME
BY GETTING FED UP WITH ADJUSTMENT WITH MOTHER IN-LAW AND OTHER MEMEBERS
OF THE FAMILY 2. BEING INFLUENCED BY FRIENDS, SO CALLED WELL WISHERS, INSTANCES
OF OTHERS 3. BETTER TO GET AWAY THAN REMAINING IN CLASHES AND CONFLICTS ALL
THE TIME ET. ETC.
In conclusion, how best are the relations between husband and wife, will turn out the situation
to good or bad. Let it not be forgotten that each problem has an answer 2.accusations and
clashes bring in destruction of all types 3. Life is meant to be spent by 2 persons of opposite
gender together, as living alone neither gives an internal happiness nor enjoyment 4. When
there will be full understanding between husband and life, all solutions will be discussed together, answers found and to move in life as such in togetherness and cooperation.
MESSAGE
1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM
2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS.
3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION
OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA
4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs
NOR AFTERWARD
5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC
OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS,
IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY.
6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES.
7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK.
8. INTERESTED FOR COLLABORATION. CONTACTL9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
TO FIND SOLUTION
POINT 4
-DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS AND PROPERTIES, PRESUMED TO BE FAVOURING SOME AND
NEGLECTING THE OTHER.
FACTUAL SITUATION;
-IT IS MOST DIFFICULT WHEN PARENTS DECIDE TO DISTRIBUTE ASSETS AND PROPERTIES
AMONGST THEIR CHILDREN
-IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO MEET THE WISHES AND DESIRES OF EACH ONE OF THE CHILDREN-
-PARENTS PREFERENTIAL ATTITUDE DOES MOSTLY EXIST FOR THE WEAKER ONE
-PREFERENCE COULD HAPPEN FOR THE ONE WHO IS CARING FOR THE PARENTS WHETHER
LIVING TOGETHER OR NOT
-MOST DIFFICULT IT BECOMES WHEN MOST OF THE CHILDREN OR AT LEAST TWO WANT THE
THE SAME ASSETS AND/OR BUSINESS
-ALSO WHETHER THE DAUGHTERS TO BE GIVEN EQUAL SHARE, OR SMALLER ONE OR NONE AT
AT ALL
-IS IT ESSENTIAL TO DISTRIBUTE WHEN PARENTS ARE ALIVE OR LEAVE THEIR CHOICE IN THEIR
WILL, TO GET TO EACH CHILD WHAT THE PARENTS HAD DECIDED ESPECIALLY AS IT WAS THEIR
OWN EARNING
-WHEN THE PARENTS DECIDE TO DISTRIBUTE WHEN THEY ARE ALIVE, THERE COULD BE LOT OF
ACCUSATIONS OF FAVOURITISM, PARTIALITY, VICTIMISATION, CONFLICTS, FIGHTS, BREAK OF
OF RELATIONS HEREAFTER
-WHEN DESPITE ALL HURDLES, STILL THE PARENTS DECIDE TO DISTRIBUTE, FEAR REMAINS THAT
SOME MAY DESTROY OR MISUSE THE HARD EARNED ASSETS AND ALSO WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO
THEM WHEN THEY WILL GET OLD
-ALL THESE REASONS ARE QUITE COMMON AND MOST OF THE PARENTS HESITATE TO DISTRIBUTE
THEIR ASSETS WHEN THEY ARE ALIVE BECAUSE OF ACCUSATIONS, MISUSE OF ASSETS AS ALSO
WHAT WILL HAPPEN WHEN THEY WILL GET OLD,
ANSWERS:
-HENCE MOST OF THE PARENTS DECIDE TO LEAVE A WILL DULY REGISTERED TO AVOID THE ABOVE
REPURCUSIONS AND CONSEQUENCES AS ALSO TO KEEP THEIR CONTROL AND RESPECT TILL THEIR
LIFE TIME AS ALSO AS SECURITY FOR THEIR OLD AGE.
-IN MOST OF THE CASES IT IS FOUND THAT WILL IS CONTESTED AND INTERPRETED BY THE CHILDREN
IN THEIR OWN INTEREST AND THEY DECIDE BETTER TO ENGAGE IN LEGAL BATTLE, AS HARDLY THE
CHILDREN GET INTO ACCEPTING THE WILL AS IT IS BY BRINGING EACH ONE HIS/HER OWN INTEREST
AS THE PRIMEMOST ONES, FORGETTING THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH OTHER.
-EXPERIENCE AND VARIOUS INSTANCES SHOW THAT THE CHILDREN WHEN THEY GET INTO LEGAL
BATTLE, THEY GENERALLY TURN ENEMY OF EACH OTHER AND CUT OFF ALL RELATIONS WITH EACH
OTHER FOR EVER.
-TO AVOID SUCH A SITUATION, IS IT NOT BETTER THAT THE PARENTS MUST ASSUME THEIR
THEIR RESPONSIBILITY DESPITE ALL PITFALLS, FEARS AND ACCUSATIONS AS POINTED OUT ABOVE,
IS THE REAL QUESTION.
ANSWER;
-IT IS BETTER TO GET INTO THE PROCESS OF DISTRIBUTION WHEN PARENTS ARE ALIVE INSTEAD OF
LEAVING A WILL AND LEAVE THE CHILDREN TO GET INTO LEGAL BATTLE AFTER THEIR DEATH. IF THIS
IS THE THINKING, THEN WHAT ARE THE REASONS WHICH FORCE THE PARENTS AND CONVINCE
THEM TO TAKE DECISION FOR DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS WHEN THEY ARE ALIVE. THE REASONS
COULD BE:
-1. TO AVOID LEGAL BATTLE
2. TO DO ALL TO ENSURE THAT THEIR CHILDREN MAINTAIN THEIR LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP AS
BROTHERS AND SISTERS, AND IF THERE ARE SOME ISSUES, THE PARENTS ARE READY TO ASSUME
THE RESPONSIBILITY TO SETTLE THE MATTER AS BEST AS POSSIBLE.
3. IT IS GENERALLY SAID AND IS A FACT AS WELL THAT PARENTS DO ALL HARD WORK
THROUGHOUT THEIR LIFE TO PROVIDE COMFORT TO THEIR CHILDREN’S WELL-BEING AND SEE
THEM PROGRESSING AS A RECOGNITION OF THEIR HARD WORK, AND BEING APPRECIATED ALL
OVER IN RELATIONS AND SOCIETY AT LARGE.
4. ALSO THE THINKING WHICH HARDLY VERY FEW ARE ABLE TO DECIDE, IT IS BETTER TO GIVE THE
ASSETS TO THE CHILDREN WHEN THEY GET MATURE AND ARE MANAGING THEIR AFFAIRS ON
OWN, TO ENABLE THEIR CHILDREN TO PROFIT FROM THE ASSETS TO LIVE BETTER, PERHAPS
LET THESE ASSETS GROW AND/OR ALSO TO INVEST ON THE UPBRINGING AND EDUCATION OF
THEIR CHILDREN IN THE BEST POSSIBLE MANNER, THAN THEY CAN AFFORD OR DO FROM THEIR
OWN RESOURCES.
-WHEN SUCH A DECISION IS TAKEN TO DISTRIBUTE ASSETS WHEN PARENTS ARE ALIVE, THE
QUESTION ARISES AS TO HOW TO GET INTO THE DRILL AND PROCESS OF DISTRIBUTION.
-PERHAPS IT SEEMS TO BE THE BEST TO GET ALL THE ASSETS EVALUATED BY THE QUALIFIED
ASSESSORS AND DO THE DISTRIBUTION ACCORDINGLY.
-MUST TAKE INTO ACCOUNT WHAT TYPE OF PORTFOLIO EACH CHILD IS HOLDING, ESPECIALLY
WHEN ENGAGED IN PARENTAL BUSINESS INDIVIDUALLY. JOINTLY OR IN SUPPLEMENTARY
ACTIVITIESTO EACH OTHER TO MANAGE THEIR BUSINESS.
-FOR THOSE WHO ARE IN THEIR SEPARATE ACTIVITIES WHETHER IN JOB OR BUSINESS, ALLOCATING
THE ASSETS IN THE FORM OF DOLING OUT FINANCIALLY WILL BE THE BETTER CHOICE.
-AND FOR THOSE WHO ARE IN BUSINESS INDIVIDUALLY OR JOINTLY, IT IS COMPARATIVELY A
DIFFICULT SUBJECT AND AS SUCH DISION NEED TO BE BASED ON THE FOLLOW PARAMETERS:
-APTITUDE
-WHO IS KEEPING THE CONTROLLING POWER TO MANAGE AND GROW THE BUSINESS
-WHETHER THERE HAS BEEN FULL UNDERSTANDING AND ACCEPTANCE OF AUTHORITY OF
ONE BY THE OTHER(S)
-WHETHER ALL IN THIS JOINT VENTURE WANT TO CONTINUE TOGETHER OR WANT TO GO
INTO THEIR OWN CHOICES INDEPENDENTLY.
-PARTICULAR AND SPECIFIC INTEREST IN AN ASSET FOR EXISTING AND/OR FUTURE REASONS.
-INSISTING ON ONE’S ABILITY, EXPERIENCE AND CONTRIBUTION ONE HAS PUT IN FOR THE
GROWTH OF THE EXISTING BUSINESS AND ASSETS THEREOF.
-HAS SACRIFIED ALL HIS COMFORTS TO ENSURE THAT HIS BROTHERS AND SISTERS ARE WELL
EDUCATED AND GET SETTLED BETTER.
-WHY THE SISTERS BE GIVEN ANY SHARE IN PARENTAL ASSETS WHEN A LOT OF MONEY HAS
BEEN SPENT ON THEIR MARRIAGES, DOWRY, GIFTS ETC. AND ALSO SOONER OR LATER THESE
SISTERS WILL INHERIT THE ASSETS OF THEIR IN-LAWS.
- BESIDES IN SELF INTEREST, MANY REASONABLE AND UNREASONABLE ISSUES ARE RAISED
IGNORING AND/OR FORGETTING THEIR RELATIONSHIP FOR EACH OTHER.
(how to get into the process of distribution of assets, will be tackled in the next writings)
MESSAGE
1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM
2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS.
3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION
OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA
4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs
NOR AFTERWARD
5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC
OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS,
IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY.
6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES.
7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK.
8. INTERESTED FOR COLLABORATION. CONTACTL9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
MOST DITURBING AND EXTREMELY DIFFICULT 13-2-24
TO FIND SOLUTION
POINT 4 IN CONTINUATION
-BEFORE GETTING TO THE PROCESS OF DISTRIBUTION
OF ASSETS
-IT BECOMES ESSENTIAL WHETHER TO GIVE ANY SHARE
TO DAUGHTER(S) IN DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS?
-WHILE IN GENERAL IT IS SEEN AND OBSERVED THAT
THOUGH LAW PROVIDES, STILL THE
PARENTS PREFER TO KEEP AND DISTRIBUTE ALL THEIR
ASSETS BETWEEN THEIR SONS AND PREFER THEIR DAUGHTERS
TO REMAIN CONTENTED WITH THE ASSETS OF THEIR HUSBANDS
AND THEIR PARENTS- IN-LAWS, TO BE SPECIFIC.
-WHY SUCH A FEELING IS AND WHY SHOULD PARENTS DIFFERTIATE
BETWEEN SONS AND DAUGHTERS, IS THE QUESTION:
-IN ANSWER
-PARENTS BELIEVE THAT WHATEVER IS GIVEN TO THE SONS
REMAINS WITH THEM AND WHATEVER WILL BE GIVEN TO DAUGHTERS
THAT WILL NOT REMAIN WITH THEM, AND AS SUCH IT IS CONSIDERED AS
A LOSS OF THEIR HARD EARNED ASSETS.
-RESISTANCE ALSO COMES FROM THE SONS SAYING THAT THEIR SISTERS
ARE GONE AND SETTLED IN ANOTHER FAMILY WITH THEIR HUSBANDS AND
IN-LAWS AND AS SUCH SISTERS DO NOT BELONG TO THIS HOUSE NOR IN ASSETS
EXCEPT IN RELATIONSHIP AS SISTERS/DAUGHTERS.
-FURTHER IT IS SAID THAT WHATEVER SONS HAVE EARNED AND HAVE DONE
IN GROWTH, DEVELOPMENT AND PROGRESS OF ASSETS IN THE HOUSE, IT IS
A CONTRIBUTION OF THEIR EFFORTS WHILE THEIR SISTER(S) HAS/HAVE NO
CONTRIBUTION ESPECIALLY WHEN MARRIED, EVEN IF SHE/THEY EARNED SOME
INCOME BY DOING JOB THAT IS MOSTLY SPENT ON HER/THEIR MARRIAGE(S)
-PARENTS, AND SONS BELIEVE AND BEHAVE IN A MANNER THAT THEIR DAUGHTERS
ARE NOW MORE OR LESS AS OUTSIDERS, BELIEVE NOTHING TO TALK/DISCUSS ANY
ISSUES OF THEIR FAMILY WITH DAUGHTERS, RATHER KEEP ALL ISSUES AND DECISIONS
AS SECRET FROM THEIR DAUGHTERS, EXCEPT IN SOME DIFFERENCES WITH SONS OR
IN DIFFICULT AND CRUCIAL SITUATIONS, TO EXPRESS THEIR VIEWS AND GET IN RETURN
SYMPATHY AND SOME ANSWER PERHAPS.
-WORST THAN THIS, AT TIMES HUSBAND(S) OF THEIR DAUGHTER(S) INSISTS(INSIST) AND
COMPEL HIS/THEIR WIFE(WIVES) TO GET HER/THEIR SHARE FROM HER/THEIR
PARENTS ASSETS, IT IS HER/THEIR RIGHT AS DAUGHTER(S) AND IT IS HER/THEIR LEGAL
RIGHT AS WELL.
IN ANSWER I AM OF THE VIEW THAT
DAUGHTERS MUST BE GIVEN THEIR SHARE FROM PARENTS ASSETS PREFERABLY EQUAL
AND IF A BIT LESS, THAT CAN BE DONE BY DISCUSSION, EXPLANATION AND PERSUATION
THAT
AFTER HER/THEIR MARRIAGE, ADDITIONAL PROGRESS AND GROWTH IN ASSETS HAS BEEN
BY CONTRIBUTION OF YOUR BROTHERS AND IN NO WAY BY PARENTS ALONE, HENCE
PERHAPS, THE ASSETS MUST BE COUNTED AND EVALUATED ONLY OF THE TIME
WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED.
-FURTHER LET IT NEED NOT BE FORGOTTEN THAT PARENTS HAVE THEIR SOLE RIGHT
WHETHER TO GIVE THEIR ASSETS TO THEIR CHILDREN OR NOT, HOW AND WHEN TO
DISTRIBUTE.
HAVING SAID ALL THAT DAUGHTERS MUST BE GIVEN SHARE DEFINITELY EQUAL TO SONS
THEN WHAT PRECAUTIONS NEED TO BE TAKEN THAT THERE IS NO CONFLICT AND IF EVER,
IT IS THE LEAST:
PARENTS MUST ENSURE”
1. GIVE SEPARATE ASSET LIKE HOUSE ETC. IF IT EXISTS SEPARATE
BUT NOT/NEVER IN A JOINT BUILDING.
2. NOT GIVE ANY PARTICIPATION OR SHARE IN BUSINESS AS THERE WILL
MORE CHANCES FOR CONFLICTS BY BROTHERS AND MORESO BY THE
INTERFERENCE OF DAUGHTER’S HUSBANDS AND THEIR FAMILIES
3. IN SUCH A SITUATION, IT WILL BE PRUDENT TO GET THE ASSETS EVALUATED
BY PROFESSIONAL ASSESSOR AND WHATEVER IS DUE TO THE DAUGHTER(S),
IS GIVEN TO HER(THEM) IN FINANCES FORM.
4.IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT PARENTS DIVIDE THEIR ASSETS IN SUCH A WAY THAT
THEY KEEP ONE PORTION OF ASSETS WITH THEM POSSIBLY 1/4TH AND
DISTRIBUTE THE REST TO THEIR SONS AND DAUGHTERS
5.DISTRIBUTION NEEDS TO BE DONE ON THE BASIS AS TO HOW MUCH CONTRIBUTION
HAS BEEN DONE BY EACH OF THE CHILDEN AND FOR HOW MUCH TIME, BASED ON THAT
DISTRIBUTION SHOULD BE DONE, HENCE DISTRIBUTION IN SUCH A MANNER WILL BE
MORE JUSTIFIABLE AND SATISFYING.
6. IF EVER THE QUESTION IS RAISED BY SONS THAT AS SISTERS WILL BE GETTING
INHERITANCE FROM THEIR IN-LAWS, THE ANSWER REMAINS THAT THE SONS’ WIVES
WILL ALSO BE GETTING INHERTANCE FROM THEIR PARENTS WHICH WILL COME TO
THESE SONS, HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT DAUGHTERS AND SONS BEING PARENTS
BLOOD MUST BE TREATED AT PAR.
7. IN CASE IF PREFERENCES BY ANY OF THE SONS ARE INSISTED, THIS QUESTION I HAVE
REPLIED EARLIER IN THE FOREGOING PARAGRAPHS.
8. AS PARENTS’ OWN 1/4TH SHARE IS LEFT, IT IS LEFT TO THEM HOW MUCH THEY WANT
TO KEEP WITH THEM FOR THEIR SECURITY, WITHOUT COUNTING ON THEIR SONS IN
ANY MANNER, PERHAPS BY LIVING AS HUSBAND AND WIFE ALONE INDEPENDENTLY,
AS SONS ALSO TURN OUT SEPARATE FAMILIES WITH THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES AND
MORESO BY THE DESIRE OF THEIR WIVES..
9. THE BALANCE IF LEFT, IT CAN BETTER BE GIVEN IN FINANCIAL HELP TO GRAND
CHILDREN AND/OR THE WEAKER ONE, WHO IS TAKING CARE OF THEM AND/OR IS
LIVING WITH THEM, AS PER CHOICE OF THE PARENTS.
10; IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT WHATEVER IS TO BE GIVEN OUT OF THEIR SHARE, PARENTS
MUST DECIDE DURING THEIR LIFE TIME AND NOT TO BE LEFT IN WILL ETC.IN ORDER
TO FORMALISE THIS, PARENTS CAN GET LEGAL DOCUMENTS REGISTERED IN THE NAME
OF THE PERSON THEY WANT TO GIVE BY PUTTING IN A CONDITION THAT SO LONG AS
THEY ARE ALIVE, THE PERSON CONCERNED WILL HAVE NO RIGHT TO EVICT THEM AND/OR
SELL THE SAID PROPERTY ETC. FURTHER LET ME ALSO CLARIFY THAT PARENTS CAN
TAKE BACK THEIR ASSET AS SELF EARNED ONE WHEN THE PERSON CONCERNED DOES
NOT CARE FOR THEM AND ALSO NOT BOTHER ABOUT THEIR MAINTENANCE.
11. FROM THE BALANCE SHARE, AFTER THE PARENTS KEEP FOR THEIR SECURITY, THEY MUST
DECIDE AND SPECIFY THAT AFTER THEIR DEATH, WHATEVER IS LEFT, WILL GO TO
SUCH AND SUCH PERSON(s). IT IS ESSENTIAL TO BE DONE AND AS SUCH NONE CAN CLAIM
OR DISPUTE AS IT IS THE SELF EARNED ASSET/MONEY OF THE PARENTS BY THEMSELVES.
MESSAGE
1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM
2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS.
3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION
OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA
4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs
NOR AFTERWARD
5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC
OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS,
IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY.
6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES.
7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK.
8. INTERESTED FOR COLLABORATION. CONTACTL9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
17-2-24
POINT 5
-VISIBLE PARENTS BEHAVIOUR ALD LEANING TOWARD THE WEAKER ONE
THAN THE ONE WHO IS HARD WORKING AND IS WELL SETTLED.
-ANSWER
-THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT PARENTS GENERALLY FAVOUR THE WEAKER ONE
WHY IT IS SO?
-IT IS DUE TO THE FACT THAT OTHER ONES WHO ARE HARD WORKING AND ARE
WELL SETTLED, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THE WEAKER ONE, DESPITE WHATEVER REASONS
LIKE HE DOES NOT CONCENTRATE IN STUDIES,. MANAGES TO DO BE MOST CLOSE
TO MOTHER AND DOES ALL WHATEVER TERTIARY JOBS ARE GIVEN BY HIS MOTHER
AND AS SUCH ENJOYS FAVOURS OF THE MOTHER
-GENERALLY IT HAPPENS WITH THE YOUNGEST ONE MOSTLY BECAUSE BY THAT TIME
THE FAMILY REACHES A COMFORTABLE LIVING, AS SUCH THE YOUNGEST ONE GETS
SPOILT WITH THE RICHESSE OF THE FAMILY AND STRUGGLES THE LEAST.
-POSSIBLY ONE OF THE CHILDREN IS BORN WITH SOME WEAKNESSES AND/OR HANDICAPS.
-AS THE STATUS OF THE CHILDREN DOES NOT REMAIN THE SAME, BUT PARENTS FEEL
THAT REST OF THE CHILDREN ARE COMPARATEIVELY WELL SETTLED AND ARE HARD
WORKING ENOUGH TO MANAGE THEIR OWN AFFAIRS.
-HENCE TO ENSURE A BETTER LIFE WHEN IT IS FELT THAT THIS CHILD IS NEITHER THAT
LABOURIOUS NOR IS INCLINED TO DO ANY HARD WORK, HAS THE LEAST INTEREST AND
LEAST CONCENTRATION TOWARDS WORK ETC. AND IN ORDER THAT SUCH A CHILD DOES NOT
REMAIN NEGLECTED, THE PARENTS DO ALL THAT THIS CHILD ALSO IS BROUGHT MORE
OR LESS IN THE SAME STATUS AS THEIR OTHER CHILDREN
-ALSO IN BELIEF IF THIS CHILD IS COMPARATIVELY BETTER OFF, IT WILL BE MOSTLY POSSIBLE
THAT HE WILL BE ABLE TO KEEP IF NOT LOVING, AT LEAST WORKING RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS
BROTHERS AND SISTERS AND IF SO HAPPENS, PARENS FEEL VERY HAPPY BY THEIR ACTION
AND PRUDENCE.
-BY THIS LEANING OF PARENTS TOWARDS THE WEAKER ONE, THE PARENTS FEEL IT IS THEIR
DUTY TO SEE THIS WEAKER ONE IS ALSO SETTLED PROPERLY AND THAT THEY ARE RELIEVED
OF THEIR WORRY ABOUT THIS WEAKER AND NOT HARD WORKING ONE.
CONSEQUENCES
-DUE TO PARENTS FAVOURABLE BEHAVIOUR TOWARDS THE WEAKER, THOSE WHO WORK HARD
AND ARE SETTLED ON THEIR OWN, DO FEEL THAT IT IS NOT CORRECT THAT PARENTS SHOULD
FAVOUR SUCH A SON WHO WHILES AWAY HIS TIME IN PLAY, AND/OR IN ENJOYING THE COMPANY
OF HIS FRIENDS, HARBOURING THE LEAST ANY GOOD WHILE MOST OF THE BAD HABITS HE LOVES
AND ENJOYS..
-AS SUCH THESE HARD WORKING CHILDREN FEEL THAT THEIR PARENTS ARE VICITIMISING THEM
AND ARE DEPRIING THEM OF THEIR DUE, IF NOT MORE.
-ALL THESE ARE REALITIES
-BUT AS THE PARENTS WANT TO SEE THE FAMLY UNITED AND WHICH IS POSSIBLE WHEN EACH
OF THEIR CHILD IS MORE OR LESS WELL SETTLED AND THAT IS WHY SUCH A THINKING OF PARENTS
ENFORCES THEM TO FAVOUR THE WEAKER ONE AND EVEN THE SPOILT ONE AS WELL.
-BESIDES PARENTS ALSO FAVOUR THE ONE WHO LIVES WITH THE PARENTS OR THE PARENTS LIVE
WITH HIM AND HE TAKES CARE OF THE PARENTS FOR ALL THERE NEEDS
-WHILE OTHERS BECAUSE THEY LIVE AWAY AT DIFFERENT PLACES FROM PARENTS BECAUSE OF
THEIR JOB, OR BECAUSE OF THEIR WIVES ATTITUDUES OR BECAUSE OF THEIR OWN
RESPONISIBILITIES AND ENGAGEMENTS
-IT BECOMES NATURAL THAT PARENTS WILL FAVOUR THE ONE WHO IS TAKING CARE OF THEM
AND WILL COMPARATIVELY FAVOUR MORE THIS ONE THAN OTHERS.
-NOW THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO HOW TO SETTLE THIS ISSUE?
-ANSWER SEEMS TO BE AS EXPLAINED HEREUNDER:
1. TO EXPLAIN TO THE HARD WORKING CHILDREN THAT AS PARENTS WE FEEL PROUD OF
YOU FOR YOUR CONTRIBUTION TO BRING IN PROGRESS TO THIS FAMILY AND ALSO HAVING
SETTLED YOURSELF ON YOUR OWN.
2. IT IS OUR WISH AND DESIRE AS WELL THAT YOUR BROTHER WHO IS SPOILT AND/OR WEAKER
FOR WHATEVER THE REASONS MAY BE, TO SEE AND ENSURE THAT HE DOES ENJOY
SOMEWHAT BETTER LIFE, AT LEAST TILL THE TIME WE ARE ALIVE.
3. FURTHER IF THE FAMILY IS UNITED, IT GIVES PRESTIGE IN SOCIETY, RALATIONS ETC. AS TO
HOW MARVELOUSLY WE HAVE MANAGED OUR HOUSE AND KEPT THE FAMILY UNITED AND
LOVING.
4. THE MORE YO UWILL REMAIN UNITED, ONE DOES NOT KNOW WHAT COULD HAPPEN
TOMORROW, IN DIFFICULT SITUATION, FAMILIAL AND/OR FINANCIAL ETC. THIS IS THE FAMILY
WHICH COMES FIRST FOR THE HELP AND TO REDRESS THE SITUATION. HENCE WE AS PARENTS
THINK AND BELIEVE THAT YOU ALL REMAIN UNITED AS BEST AS YOU CAN.
5. THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS LISTENED TO US, HAVE BEEN AND ARE
OBEDIENT AND HAVE DONE YOUR BEST TO ENSURE THAT WE REMAIN HAPPY, WE AS SUCH
DEMAND YOUR SACRIFICE FOR OUR SAKE TO ALLOW US TO COMPENSATE YOUR WEAKER/
SPOILT BROTHER.
6. THERE IS ALL PROBABILITY AND FEELING THAT WITH DUE EXPLANATION AND EMOTIONAL
EXPRESSION, PARENTS ARE ALLOWED TO GO BY THEIR DECISION AS THEY WANT.
-SUPPOSE BY ALL SUCH EFFORTS, REST OF THE CHILDREN INSIST AND DO NOT AGREE, THEN WHAT
COURSE OF ACTION IS LEFT TO THE PARENTS:
-EXCEPT THAT AFTER DISTRIBUTION OF THEIR ASSETS PROPORTIONATELY AS PER CONTRIBUTION
DONE BY EACH OF THE CHILD, WHATEVER IS LEFT AS THEIR CHARE, THEY CAN GIVE ALL OR A
PORTION OF IT TO THE WEARKER/SPOILT CHILD IN A MANNER THAT HE GETS A FIXED INCOME
EVERY MONTH, MAYBE THROUGH FIXED DEPOSITS, BONDS, RENT ETC. ETC.
-IT IS PREFERABLE THAT THE PARENTS MUST KEEP TO THEMSELVES WHATEVER THEY THINK THEY
NEED FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFE AND GIVE THE BALANCE TO THEIR WEAKER CHILD.
-IF THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH RESOURCES TO TAKE SUCH A DECISION, THEN IT IS BETTER FOR THEM
TO MAKE A LEGAL VERDICT/WILL AND GET IT REGISTERED THAT SO LONG AS THEY LIVE, EITHER
THIS THIS CHILD WILL BE KEEPING THEM WITH HIM AND IF NOT, WILL BE PROVIDING A CERTAIN
AMOUNT OF MAINTENANCE TO THEM
-OR BETTER WILL BE THAT THROUGH LEGAL AGREEMENT, THEY GIVE THEIR SHARE TO THIS WEAKER
CHILD AND IN THE MEANTIME WHATEVER INCOME IS COMING FROM THEIR ASSETS, THEY PASS ON
TO THE WEAKER ONE AFTER KEEPING WITH THEM WHAT THEY NEED FOR THEIR LIVING AND THAT
AFTER THEIR DEATH, WHATEVER IS LEFT BY THEM, GOES AUTOMATICALLY THIS SPECIFIED CHILD..
MESSAGE
1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM
2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS.
3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION
OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA
4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs
NOR AFTERWARD
5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC
OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS,
IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY.
6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES.
7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK.
20-2-24
POINT 6
DIFFERENCE OF OPINION AND APPROACH TO VARIOUS SUBJECTS AND DECISIONS
QUESTION ARISES WHY DOES SO HAPPEN WHEN CHILDREN ARE EXPECTED TO LISTEN TO THEIR
PARENTS AND FINALLY ACCEPT WHAT THE PARENTS DECIDE, BUT QUITE OFTEN IT DOES NOT
HAPPEN DUE TO:
1-PARENTS THINK THAT THEY HAVE EXPERIENCE OF LIFE WHILE THEIR CHILDREN HAVE YET TO
ACQUIRE THAT EXPERIENCE
2. CHILDREN THINK THAT WE ARE ADULT NOW, TAKE MANY OF OUR OWN DECISIONS, WE NEED
TO BE ALLOWED TO TAKE DECISIONS ON OUR OWN
3. CHILDREN FEEL AND SAY THAT WE DO AGREE TO LISTEN TO PARENTS VIEWS BUT IT IS NOT
ESSENTIAL THAT WE AGREE TO WHAT OUR PARENTS SAY AND DECIDE, MOST OF THE TIME
THEIR VIEWS ARE BASED ON THEIR PAST EXPERIENCE WHILE THE CIRCUMSTANCES AND WORLD
HAVE CHANGED NOW.
4. OUR PARENTS LIVE IN THE PAST WHILE WE LIVE IN THE PRESENT
5. WITH TECHNOLOGICAL DEVELOPMENTS, TRAVEL, HIGHER AND CO-EDUCATION, BOYS AND GIRLS
MORE OR LESS WORKING AT SAME WORKPLACE AS COLLEAGUES, EVERYTHING IS RAPIDLY
CHANGING WHEREIN NEITHER THE PARENTS LIVE NOR ARE NOT MUCH AWARE, MORESO DO NOT
KNOW AND/OR HAVE EXPERIENCE OF THE PRESENT LIFE.
ANSWER;
-TRUE, PARENTS HAVE EXPERIENCE OF LIFE OF THEIR AGE BUT NOW NEITHER THEY LIVE IN THE
PRESENT CHANGED SITUATIONS NOR THEY ARE OF THAT AGE OF THE YOUNGSTERS
-HENCE IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT PARENTS MUST EXPRESS THEIR VIEWS ON THE SUBJECT CONCERNED,
BUT IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THEY MUST LISTEN ATTENTATIVELY AND PATIENTLY TO THE VIEWS OF
THEIR CHILDREN AS WELL
-MUST BELIEVE AND ORIENT THEMSELVES IN THINKING AS WELL THAT NOW THEIR CHILDREN HAVE
BECOME ADULT, THOUGH RESPECT IS ESSENTIAL FROM THE CHILDREN FOR THE PARENTS, BUT
IT IS NOT ESSENTIAL THAT CHILDREN MUST AGREE TO THE VIEWS OF THEIR PARENTS
-DISCUSSION OF COURSE IS NECESSARY BUT NOT IMPOSITION OF ANY KIND AT ALL.
-PARENTS MUST ALSO BELIEVE THAT IT IS THEY WHO NEED THEIR CHILDREN, NOT NECESSARILY FOR
THEIR REQUIREMENTS BUT FOR EMOTIONAL LOVE AT ALL COST AND IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.
-HENCE TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCE MUST REMAIN THE FINAL OBJECTIVE
-PARENTS MUST BELIEVE THAT WHAT WE THINK AND DO, IT IS ONLY AND IN ALL RESPECTS FOR THE
BETTERMENT OF THEIR CHILDREN, AND IF THE CHILDREN DO NOT AGREE, LET THE PARENTS
CONCEDE, AGREE TO THE VIEWS OF THEIR CHILDREN, AND FINALLY LEAVE THEIR CHILDREN TO
THEIR DECISION
-MUST BELIEVE THAT THEY CANNOT AFFORD AND MUST NOT CREATE EMBITTERMENT OF
RELATIONS WITH THEIR CHILDREN, RATHER IT IS ESSENTIAL TO BE PRUDENT TO ENSURE HAPPY
REATIONS WITH THEIR CHILDREN.
-ALSO MUST BELIEVE IN THE PRINCIPLE WHEN MOTHER WANTS HER CHILD TO WALK, IF SHE
CONTINUES WATCHING AND ENSURES THAT THE CHILD DOES NOT FALL, THE CHILD WILL ALWAYS
DEPEND ON HER MOTHER TO PICK HIM/HER UP AND ACCOMPANY HIM/HER TO WALK, WHILE
IN ALTERNATIVE, IF THE MOTHER LEAVES THE CHILD TO MANAGE TO WALK BY HIMSEL/HERSELF,
SHE DOES NOT BOTHER WHEN AND HOW THE CHILD IS FALLING AND EVEN DOES NOT BOTHER IF
THE CHILD STARTS WEAPING, IT IS BUT NATURAL THAT THE CHILD WILL DO ALL ITS BEST TO STAND
UP AND WALK.
-LIKEWISE LET THE PARENTS WHEN THE CHILDREN DO NOT AGREE WITH THE DECISION OF THE
PARENTS, LET THE PARENTS ACCEPT THE DECISION OF THEIR CHILD/CHILDREN AND ALLOW THE
CHILDREN TO GO BY THEIR OWN DECISION IN WHATEVER MANNER THEY WANT, THE PARENTS
HAVE EXPRESSED THEIR VIEWS AS THEY COULD THINK, AND AS SUCH DO WANT TO INSIST IN ANY
MANNER.
-EXPERIENCE AND OBSERVATION SHOW THAT THE CHILDREN WILL DO THEIR BEST THAT NOTHING
UNTOWARD HAPPENS, IF EVER IT HAPPENS, IT WILL HELP THEM TO HAVE GAINED EXPERIENCE AND
LEARNT NOT TO DO SUCH MISTAKE HEREAFTER AND IT IS POSSIBLE THEY MAY GET CONVINCED
THAT THEIR PARENTS WERE RIGHT, AND AS SUCH MIGHT TEND TO BECOME MORE CONCILIATORY
TOWARDS THE PARENTS AND THEIR VIEWS/DECISIONS, IF NOT THE ENTIRE ONES, PERHAPS IN
MODIFIED FORM OF COURSE.
IN SHORT, THE PARENTS IF THE CHILDREN DO NOT AGREE TO THE DECISION OF THE PARENTS, IT
IS NECESSARY AND IT IS FOR THE BENEFIT OF THE PARENTS, TO ALLOW THEIR CHILDREN TO GO BY THEIR OWN DECISION AND GET THE EXPERIENCE AS IT COMES ABOUT AND EVEN IF THE CHILDREN SUFFER SOME SETBACKS WITH THEIR DECISION, THE PARENTS MUST REMAIN CALM AND IF POSSIBLE, TELL THEIR CHIDREN, NEVER MIND, ONE LEARNS BY MISTAKES, AND SUCCESS AS SUCH COMES ABOUT AFTER LOT OF STRUGGLES AND FAILURES MANY A TIME
HAVING SAID ALL ABOUT THE CHILDREN, THEN WILL HAPPEN WHEN THE WIFE INSISTS, GETS ADAMAN TO GO BY HER DECISION
-IF THE HUSBAND THINKS AND GENERALLY IT IS SO, THAT HE IS COMPARATIVELY WISER, HAS LOT
OF EXPERIENCE. IT IS ALL THE MORE NECESSARY THAT HE MUST GO BY WISDOM THAN BY EGO
AND RETALIATION.
-URTHER WHEN THE HUSAND THINKS THAT HE IS THE MASTER OF THE HOUSE FOR ALL PURPOSES AND THAT THE WIFE IS TO GO BY HIS DECISION, IT IS A WRONG ATTITUDE AND TOTALLY AGAINST
THE SPIRIT OF MARRIAGE WHICH BINDS THE HUSBAND AND WIFE TO LISTEN TO EACH OTHER, TAKE
DECISIONS BY PATIENT LISTENING, UNDERSTANDING AND ANALYSING ALL THE PROS AND CONS
WITHOUT ANY EGO OR GENDER BIAS, ACCEPT EACH OTHER AS EACH ONE IS, ALL THEIR WORKING
HAS TO GO BY CARING, AND SHARING ETC. IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT THE HUSBAND AS HEAD OF THE
FAMILY, MUST SHUN HIS EGO, EXERCISE WIDOM, AND IF THE WIFE IS INSISTING AND IS PERHAPS
ADAMANT, THE HUSBAND MUST ALLOW HER WIFE TO GO BY HER OWN DECISION AND HE MUST
REMAIN READY TO ACCEPT EVEN IF THE RESULT OF THE DECISION GOES WRONG AND/OR PUTS IN
SOME LOSSES, HE MUST ACCEPT ALL THIS TO KEEP PEACE IN THE HOUSE AND ALSO THAT ALL BELONGS TO HIM ALONE, RATHER IT BELONGS TO BOTH OF THEM, NONE OF THEM WISHES TO WASTE OR LOSE ANYTHING IN ANY MANNER.
HE MUST ALSO BELIEVE AS TO HOW HE CAN BE SURE THAT HIS DECISION WILL BE ADVANTAGEOUS
AND BENEFICIAL AND WILL NEVER GO BY ERROR OR LOSSES OR FAILURES. AND THAT IS ALL A
CALCULATION, EXPERIENCE AND BELIEF BUT NO CERTAINTLY THAT ALL WILL GO WELL AS PLANNED
AND DECISION TAKEN, PITFALLS DO HAPPEN AND THESE ARE UNAVOIDABLE, AND AS SUCH CORRECTIONS AND EXPERIENCE REMAIN THE SOLE ANSWER.
IN CONCLUSION, THE HUSBAND MUST ALL TO CONVINCE THE WIFE BY REASONS AND ARGUMENTS
AND IF NOT AGREED, IT IS PRUDENT AND ADVISABLE THAT THE HUSBAND MUST ACCEPT THE DECISION OF THE WIFE AND LET HER GAIN EXPERIENCE OF HER DECISION.
-SAME COURSE OF ACTION APPLIES TO WIFE AS WELL.
MESSAGE
1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM
2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS.
3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION
OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA
4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs
NOR AFTERWARD
5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC
OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS,
IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY.
6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES.
7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK.
8. INTERESTED FOR COLLABORATION. CONTACTL9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
23-2-24
POINT 7
HABIS AND ATTITUDES OF PARENTS/OR CHILDREN NOT COMPATIBLE
LET ME GET BACK TO THE BACKGROUND OF PARENTS, FIRST.
-IT IS SAID PARENTS ARE THE MORAL FOR THE CHILDREN AND AS SUCH
THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO DO ALL INCLUDING THEIR HABITS AND ATTITUDES
THAT THEIR CHILDREN DO NOT FALL PREY TO THOSE HABITS AND ATTITUDES
WHICH THEY THINK ARE MORE OR LESS BUT SOMEHOW CAN’T MANAGE TO
TO GET RID OF THOSE.
ATTITUDES AND HABITS COULD IN GENERAL CONSIST OF THE FOLLOWING;
GOOD:
-HONEST, HARDWORKING, LISTEN, REFLECT AND THEN TAKE DECSION, GIVE
ENOUGH TIME TO THE CHILDREN AND AMONGST THEMSELVES AS HUSBAND
AND WIFE, BETTER EXPLAIN THAN GETTING ANGRY, RELIGIOUS BUT OPEN MINDED
OR ARTHODOX, TAKE TO PRAYERS AND MAKE EVERYONE SIT TOGETHER AND OFFER
PRATERS, MANAGE NOT TO TELL LIES, MOSTLY REMAIN FRANK AND CORRECT, IF
ANY MISTAKE HAPPENS KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWINGLY, DO ACCEPT THEIR FAULT
AND OFFER REGRETS. SO ON AND SO FORTH AND TO DO ALL, TO TURN OUT THE
MOST PERFECT, GENTLE, RESPECTFUL, KIND AND BENEVOLENT IN BEHAVIOUR
AND FINANCIALLY WHATEVER THEY CAN AFFORD.
BAD HABITS COULD CONSIST OF
-SMOKING, DRINKING. TELLING LIES, DISHONEST, EGO, SHOUT, GET INTO ANGER
DO NOT BOTHER ABOUT GIVING TIME TO THEIR CHILDREN AND/OR ASKING ABOUT
THEIR WOES, GAMBLING AND BETTING, FORM ANTI ATTITUDE VERY EASILY, AT TIME
RESORT TO BEATING, REMAIN DISTRESSEND AND ANGRY MOST OF THE TIME, TALK
ILL OF OTHERS AND CRITICISE THEM ALL THE TIME, CRITICISE ALMOST EACH AND
EVERYONE ALL THE TIME, LETHARGIC AND LAZY, ADDICTION TO THEIR DISLIKINGS
-AND NEGLECTING THE REST OF FAMILY MEMBERS, SO ON AND SO FORTH
-IN GENERAL VICES ARE MUCH MORE THAN VIRTUES, TO ADOPT VIRTUES IS A
DIFFICULT TASK WHILE INDULGING INTO VICES IT IS MUCH EASIER AS IN
GENERAL THE ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIETY REMAIN INVOLVED IN THESE
AND ENCOURGE OTHERS TO GET HABITUATED AND/OR ADDICTED TO THESE.
-IN ANSWER
-EVEN IF THE PARENTS HAVE SOME VICES, AND ALSO THAT THEY ARE SO MUCH
ADDICTED THAT THEY CANNOT LEAVE THESE VICES.
-THEN IT IS ESSENTIAL THEY MUST AT LEAST BECOME CONSCIOUS OF THEIR
HABITS/VICES
-AND THE MOMENT THEY BECOME CONSCIOUS THAT SUCH AND SUCH HABITS
ARE NO GOOD BUT THEY CANNOT GET RID OF THESE AS THEY ARE HABITUATED
RATHER ADDICTED TO THESE
-AS SUCH THEY ADVISE THEIR CHILDREN BEWARE NEVER INDULGE IN SUCH
HABITS, THESE ARE RUINOUS FOR ALL PURPOSES
-AND AS WE LOVE YOU AND ARE DOING OUR BEST FOR YOUR BEST UPBRINGING
IF YOU PROMISE NOT TO INDULGE IN THESE HABITS, WE DO BELIEVE AND ARE VERY
SURE THAT YOU WILL MAKE A LOT OF PROGRESS AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE COMPARATIVELY
WELL HEREAFTER.
-
-NONETHELESS THERE ARE CASES WHEN CHILDREN OBSERVE THE HABITS OF THEIR
PARENTS WHICH THEY DO NOT LIKE AND DETEST,
-THEY AUTOMATICALLY NEVER INDULGE IN SUCH HABITS, WHETHER TEMPTED OR NOT
-THEIR CONSCIOUSNESS AND HAVING OBSERVED THE DISADVANTAGES OF THE HABITS/
VICES OF THEIR PARENTS, SUCH FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS ALWAYS REMAIN IN THEIR
MIND TO AVOID SUCH TEMPTATIONS AT ALL COSTS.
-CHILDREN
-AS FOR CHILDREN ARE CONCERNED, THE CHILDREN ARE BORN WITH DIFFERENT
INHERENT ATTITUDES AND IT IS SAID IT SO HAPPENS AS DURING THE PREGNANCY OF
THEIR MOTHER, IN WHAT ATTITUDE AND CIRCUMSTANCES SHE IS, DO INFLUENCE TO
FORM THE ATTITUDES OF THE CHILDREN
-AS EACH PREGNANCY HAS DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES AND DIFFERENT ATTITUDES AND
BEHAVIOUR, IT IS BUT NATURAL THAT THEIR CHILDREN WILL HAVE DIFFERENT INBORN
ATTITUDES
-SOME WILL LOVE, SOME WILL BE JEALOURS, SOME WILL FIGHT, SO ON AND SO FORTH.
-IT IS ALSO OBSERVED WHEN CHILDREN ARE SMALL AND ARE YOUNGSTERS, THEY THOUGH
FIGHT WITH EACH OTHER, BUT WHEN SOMEONE OUTSIDER HARMS ANY OF THEM
IN ANY MANNER, LIKE ACCUSING, TEASING, FIGHTING ETC. THEN ALL THE CHILDREN
GET TOGETHER, BECOME ONE TO FIGHT THEIR FOE, FOR WHATEVER THE REASONS MAY
BE
-BUT WHEN THE CHILDREN GET GROWN UP AND GET SETTLED, THEN THEY DEVELOP
JEALOUSIES AGAINST EACH OTHER AND ALL THE TIME TALK OF THE PAST.
-ALL THESE ARE NATURAL PHENOMENON AND HAPPEN ALLMOST IN EACH AND EVERY
FAMILY.
NOW THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO WHAT SHOULD BE DONE NEITHER THE CHILDREN
DEVELOP THE HABITS/VICES OF THEIR PARENTS NO THEY FIGHT AMONGST THEMSELVES.
-IN ANSWER
-BESIDES WHATI HAVE ANSWERED IN EARLIER PARAGPH, IT IS ALSO ESSENTIAL THAT PARENTS
-MUST GIVE ENOUGH TIME TO EACH OF THEIR CHILDREN
-DO ALL TO MOTIVATE THEM AS TO WHAT THE LIFE MEANS AND HOW IT COULD BE MADE
LOVING AND ENJOYABLE.
-MUST TELL THEM DESPITE THE FACT AS TO HOW EACH WILL EMBARK AND SETTLE IN HIS/HER
OWN LIFE, IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT YOU ALL NOT ONLY MAINTAIN BUT CONTINUE ALL THE TIME
TO KEEP THE SAME RELATIONSHIP AS BROTHERS AND SISTERS, AS YOU HAVE BEEN LIVING IN
YOUR YOUNGER AGE.
-ALSO EXPLAIN TO EACH CHILD THAT CHILDREN ARE THE STRENGTH AND REPUTATION OF THE
THE FAMILY, WHICH DEMANDS BY ALL MEANS THAT YOU ALL REMAIN UNITED, NEVER SHALL
TALK OF THE PAST NOR WILL SHOW OFF YOUR STATUS
-AND IF ONE OF YOU DOES NOT DEVELOP WELL AS YOU ALL HAPPEN TO BE, THEN DO ALL SO
THAT HE/SHE ALSO ENJOYS COMPARATIVELY BETTER LIFE WHICH WILL ALLOW HIM/HER TO MEET
EACH OTHER AND AS SUCH WILL ENJOY THE COMPANY AND LOVE OF EACH OTHER.
-IT IS A HOPE AND ARE SERMONS AS WELL, BUT MOSTLY IT DOES NOT HAPPEN FOR SO MANY
REASONS
-DESPITE ALL THESE PITFALLS, PARENTS DO THEIR BEST TO HARNESS THE BEST RELATIONS
AMONGST THEIR CHILDREN BY ARRANGING GET TOGETHER, ENJOYING HOLIDAYS TOGETHER
ETC. ETC.
-FEW SUCCEED WHILE MANY FAIL, THE PARENTS EFFORTS, EXPLANATION, PERSUASION ETC.
MUST BE CONTINUED AND THOSE PARENTS WHO PUT IN ALL THEIR ENERGY AND PUT IN ALL
EFFORTS, DO SUCCEED WHICH BECOMES THE FULFILMENT OF THEIR MISSION AND ENJOYMENT
OF LIFE AS BEST AND AS HAPPY AS POSSIBLE.
-PARENTS MUST ESSENTIALLY OBSERVE THE ATTITUDE AND HABITS OF EACH OF THEIR CHILD
AND GIVE TIM TO EACH OF THEM TIME GENERALLY IN SEPARATE BY OFFERING EXPLANATION
AND PERSUASION.
IN SHORT, WHATEVER ISSUES MAY CROP UP BETWEEN THE PARENTS AND THE CHILDREN AND/OR
AMONG THE CHILDREN THEMSELVES, THE ABOVE ANSWERS WILL HOLD GOOD ALL THE TIME AND
IN ALL SITUATIONS. MESSAGE
1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM
2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS.
3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION
OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA
4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs
NOR AFTERWARD
5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC
OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS,
IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY.
6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES.
7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK.
8. INTERESTED FOR COLLABORATION. CONTACTL9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
25-2-24
8TH POINT
REAL OR PRESUMED LACK OF RESPECT BY THE CHILDREN FOR THEIR PARENTS
-NORMALLY IT IS EXPECTED AND IT IS GENERALLY OBSERVED THAT CHILDREN
DESPITE DIFFERENCES OF OPINION, CLASHES AND FIGHTS DO RESPECT THEIR
PARENTS AND DO NOT EXTEND THEIR BEHAVIOUR BEYOND CLASHES ETC. TO
ENSURE THAT RESPECT AND RELATIONSHIP ARE MAINTAINED ALWAYS OR
MOST OF THE TIME.
-WHEN SUCH IS THE THINKING AND BEHAVIOUR, THEN WHAT ARE THOSE
CIRCUMSTANCES WHICH FORCE THE CHILDREN NOT ONLY NOT TO RESPECT
BUT ALSO DETEST SO MUCH THAT THEY DO NOT WANT TO SEE THE FACE
OF THEIR PARENTS AT ALL AND IN EXTREME WHEREVER IT IS POSSIBLE, THEY
PREFER TO DELETE THE NAME ESPECIALLY OF THEIR FATHER NOR EVEN LET
IT NOT BE KNOWN AS TO WHO THEIR FATHER WAS OR IS..
PERHAPS FOLLOWING COUD BE THE FACTORS SO DRASTIC THAT NOT ONLY CHILDREN
LOSE RESPECT FOR THEIR FATHER, RATHER NEITHER WANT TO SEE AND/OR HEAR
ABOUT HIM?
-INCIDENTALLY WHY SUCH A BEHAVIOUR OF THE CHILDREN IS NOT SO FOR THEIR
MOTHER
-IT GENERALLY IT HAPPENS SO AS THE MOTHER IS MUCH MORE ATTACHED TO HER
CHILDREN. LOVES THEM THE MOST AND KEEPS ALWAYS A SOFT CORNER TO MEET
THEIR DEMANDS ALWAYS AND MANY A TIME DESPITE RESISTANCE OF HER HUSBAND
AND EVEN NON-ACCEPTANCE BY HER HUSBAND.
-FURTHER IT IS A RARE PHENOMENON WHEN MOTHER WILL GET TO THE EXTREME TO
AFFECT THE REPUTATION OF HER CHILDREN AND BRING THEM A BAD NAME IN RELATIONS
AND SOCIETY AT LARGE.
-NEVERTHELESS IT NEEDN’T BE FORGOTTEN THAT FATHER IS ALWAYS CONSIDERED AND
IS ACCEPTED ASA COMMANDER OF THE HOUSE AND AS SUCH ANY AND EVERY BAD AND
UNDESIRABLE ACTION TAKEN BY THE FATHER CAUSES NOT ONLY DISRESPECT BUT DEVELOPS
HATRED AS WELL.
-NOW TO GET TO THE POSSIBLE FACTORS WHICH INFLUENCE THE CHILDRN NOT TO RESPECT
THEIR FATHER
-VICES LIKE GAMBLING, BETTING, HEAVY DRINKING LIKE DRUNKARDS, OVERPLAY IN AMBITIONS
AND TO INCUR LOSSES ALL THE TIME. INDLUGES IN FIGHTS WITH EACH AND EVERYONE. IS MOST
VULGAR AND ARROGANT. EVEN AT TIME TURN TO SLAPPING AND BEATING, IS A TERROR-
CHILDREN DARE NEVER TO BE NEAR HIM AND DO ALL TO AVOID HIM EACH AND EVERY MOMENT
AND ALL THE TIME.
-HAS DESERTED HIS WIFE AND LEFT THE CHILDREN NOT ONLY AT THE CHARGE AND EXPENSE
OF HIS WIFE RATHER IS BEHAVING IN A MANNER AS IF THE CHILDREN DO NOT BELONG TO
HIM AT ALL. AS SUCH MORE THE CHILDREN SEE THE SUFFERANCE AND WORST CONDITION OF
THEIR MOTHER, THEY DEVELOP THEIR LOVE AND PITTANCE FOR THEIR MOTHER AND MORE AND
MORE BEAR DISREPECT AND TEND TO DETEST THEIR FATHER.
-IT IS POSSIBLE THAT THEIR FATHER IS LIVING WITH SOMEONE ELSE OR HAS GOT MARRIED
TO SOMEONE ELSE
-OR HAS STARTED GOING TO PROSTITUES AND/OR TRADE IN THE BUSINESS OF PROSTITUTES.
-KEEPS COMPANY OF GANGSTERS AND AS SUCH DOES ALL SORTS OF MISCHIEFS, BURGALARIES,
-THEFTS ETC.
-IS CAUGHT BY POLICE AND GETS TO JAIL QUITE OFTEN
-AS ALL SUCH VICES COST THE REPUTATION OF THE CHILDREN IN THEIR WORKING AND
IN MARRIAGE IN PARTICULAR, IT IS BUT NATURAL THAT THE CHILDREN WILL DO ALL TO
HIDE AND IN PREFERENC TO DISLINK FROM THEIR FATHER BY ALL MEANS AND IN ALL MANNERS.
-LET IT NOT BE FORGOTTEN, WHEN THE CHILDREN FACE ADVERSITIES, HARD SITUATIONS TO BEAR
WITH, OR SEE THEIR FRIENDS, COLLEAGUES ETC. LIVING IN THE COMPANY OF THEIR PARENTS
AND IN PARTICULAR IN THE COMPANY OF THEIR FATHER, AS AND WHEN NEEDED THEY CONSULT
THEIR FATHER AND TAKE HIS ADVICE, SOME LOVE AS WELL,
-HENCE SUCH CHILDREN WHO ARE AFFECTED BY THE ACTION OF THEIR FATHER IN CIRCUMTANCES
MORE OR LESS AS CITED ABOVE, DO FEEL AND CONSIDER SUCH A SITUATION AA CURSE OF DESTINY
AND ALL SORTS OF MISERIES ATTACHED TO THE ACTIONS AND BEHAVIOUR OF THEIR PARENTS.
-LET ME BE FRANK TO SAY, EXPRESS, EXPLAIN AND CONFESS THAT DESPITE THE FACT THE CHILDREN
MAY LOSE RESPECT FOR THEIR FATHER AND DECIDE NEVER TO SEE HIM NOR EVEN TALK ABOUT
THEIR FATHER. LOVE AND RELATIONS SHALL REMAIN ALWAYS HIDDEN IN THEIR MIND WHICH WILL DEFINITELY RISE UP WHEN THE CHILDREN WILL FACE THE EXTREME AND UNBEARABLE SITUATIONS
THEY WILL GET TO FEEL AND RECALL THE LOSS OF EMOTIONS AND EMOTIONAL LOVE IN A STATE OF
DESPARATION AND REGRETS
MESSAGE
1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM
2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS.
3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION
OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA
4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs
NOR AFTERWARD
5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC
OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS,
IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY.
6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES.
7. WAS FOUNDED IN 2015, CARRIES 5 STARS IN GOOGLE AND FACEBOOK.
8. INTERESTED FOR COLLABORATION. CONTACTL9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com
The founder Vas Dev Loond, imbued in his pursuit to do social service to mankind, has decided to launch the Marriage Guidance- New Concept and to fill in the vacuum created by the modern society where grown-ups feel hesitant to make commitment and the parents remain worried to find a compatible and suitable match for their children.
