If relationship get soar with someone, how to behave

IF RELATIONS GET SOAR WITH SOMEONE, HOW TO BEHAVE

-THERE IS NO DOUBT RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC. WILL RUSH UP

  TO SYMPATHISE AND CHECK ABOUT THE REASONS.

 

-TRUE, IT IS UNAVOIDABLE AND IT IS A FACT AS WELL. ALL

  ARE TO BE WELL RECEIVED, HOW TO REPLY IS THE QUESTION

  TO BE ANSWERED.

 

-NEVER TALK ILL, MAYBE SOME MAY AGREE AND SOME MAY NOT

 BUT SURELY DISCUSSION IF NOT WITH YOU AS A SUFFERER,

 BUT OUTSIDE DISCUSSIONS WILL GO ON FOR AND AGAINST.

 

-BETTER TO SAY THAT IT IS AN ISSUE NOT SO BIG, IN LIFE UPS AND

 DOWNS HAPPEN, POSSIBLY ALL WILL GET SETTLED.

 

-IF IN CASE OF INISISTENCE AND SHOWING OR ACCEPTED TO BE

 WELL WISHER, SHOULD THE TRUTH AND ALL CIRCUMSTANCES

 BE NARRATED.

 

-IF WE DO THAT, WE WILL BE INDULDGING IN LOT OF DISCUSSION

 AND IF WE TALK MUCH ILL OF THE OTHER PARTY, THOUGH ONE

 MAY NOT SAY BUT WILL SURELY BELIEVE THAT WE ALSO MUST

 BE AT FAULT, BELIEVING AND COMMENTING THAT CLAPPING IS

 DONE BY BOTH HANDS, NOT AND NEVER BY A SINGLE HAND,

 DEFINITELY THERE MIGHT HAVE GONE SOMETHING WRONG

 ON BOTH SIDES AND EVEN IF IT HAS HAPPENED ON ONE SIDE,

 THE OTHER WOULD ALSO NOT HAVE TOLERATED IT AND WOULD

  PERHAPS MADE IT A PRESTIGE ISSUE.

 

-HOWEVER WHATEVER WE MAY AVOID, WE DO FEEL TO TALK TO

 THE BEST FRIENDS, WELL WISHERS, RELATIONS, WHO WE BELIEVE

 ARE NOT ONLY THE WELL WISHERS BUT CONFIDENT ALSO, EVEN A

 LAWYER TOO, IN ORDER TO HAVE THEIR VIEWS.

 

-BUT AS IT IS IN OUR NATURE, WE WILL BLAME THE OTHER AND

 POINT OUT ALL FAULTS, AND WILL AVOID TO TELL THE ENTIRE FACTS

 IN TRUTH, MANY HAPPENINGS WE WILL HIDE OR MISREPRESENT.

 

-ANYWAY DISCUSSIONS WITH SUCH PERSONS AS CITED ABOVE WILL

  RELIEVE YOURSELF OF A LOT OF THE BURDEN AND POSSILY SOME ADVICE

  OR CLUE MAY TURN UP TO BE HELPFUL.

 

-IN GENERAL EGO, VENGENCE AND PAST DEALINGS AND PAST HISTORY

 ALL OPEN UP TO AGGRAVATE THE SITUATION AND TO STRECH THE

 CONFLICT TO AN UNCOMPROMISING STAGE.

 

BESIDES ALL ABOVE, IF EVER YOU BOTH HAPPEN TO MEET EACH

OTHER IN SHOPPING. IN SOME SOCIAL FUNCTION, IN SOME RELIGIOUS OR

BUSINESS LIKE GATHERING, HOW SHOULD YOU REACT?

 

-I BEIEVE THOUGH RELATIONS HAVE GOT ESTRANGED AND/OR

-EVEN BROKEN, BUT YOU HAVE NOT TURNED AS ENEMY OF EACH OTHER AND

 EVEN IF ENEMY, IT WILL BE BETTER AND POLITE, TO SAY HELLO AND PERHAPS

 TO SAY, HOPE ALL IS WELL AND MOVE ON. SUCH A BEHAVIOUR POSSIBLY

 WILL DILUTE THE ENEMITY, AND MAKE THE OTHER TO FEEL AND ACCEPT THE GESTURE

 

  BUT BE CAREFUL IF YOU DO NOT INTEND TO RENEW THE RELATIONS, BETTER NOT AND

  NEVER INDULGE INTO THE TOPIC EVEN THOUGH THE MEETING HAPPENED INCIDENTLY,

  AND UNEXPECTEDLY.

 

  FURTHER QUESTION ARISES EVEN THOUGH ACCUSATIONS ARE NEITHER TALKED

  OVER NOR HURLED, SHOULD THE CONFLICTED ISSUE BE LEFT TO PASS BYE OR

  LEFT IT FOR SOME TIME BELIEVING THAT PRHAPS CIRCUMSTANCES WILL

  CHANGE, WISDOM WILL PREVAIL, INCONVENIENCES AND SUFFERINGS WILL

  APPEAR TO CAUSE WORRIES AND REFLECTION AS TO WHAT IS THE USE OF

  KEEPING THESE ESTRANGED RELATIONS, BETTER IT IS TO TALK OVER AND

   AND RECONCILE OURSELVES AND IN RELATIONS TOO.

 

   HOWEVER WHEN SUCH A THINKING AND FEELING WILL DEVELOP, THE QUESTION

   WILL ARISE AS TO WHO IS TO TAKE THE INITIATIVE. POSSIBLY SUCH AN OVERTURE

   MAY BE REBUFFED BY THE OTHER, BRINGING OUT THE PAST STORIES, AND

   ACCUSATIONS OF ALL SORTS. BESIDES SUCH AN UNWANTED BEVARIOUR, IT IS

   POSSIBLE THE OTHER PARTY MIGHT TAKE IT AS YOUR WEAKNESS AND EXPLOIT IT

   IN FUTURE.

 

    HENCE AS SUCH, PERSONAL VISIT AND PERSONAL OVERTURE GENERALLY DO NOT

    SEEM TO BE THE RIGHT ANSWER, THEN THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO HOW TO

    RESOLVE THE CONFLICT.

 

    ESSENTIAL IT IS THAT SOME INTERMEDIARY, RELATION OR FRIEND, WHO IS SYMPATHETIC

     AND HAD VERY CLOSE AND CORDIAL RELATIONS ON BOTH SIDES ALL ALONG EARLIER TO

     THIS HAPPENING OF THE PRESENT CONFLICT, WILL CERTAINLY BE IN A GOOD POSITION

     TO TALK TO BOTH THE PARTIES, THOUGH EACH ONE WILL BE VENTING HIS/HER GRIEVANCES

     AND REASONING IN ACCUSATION ETC., THE INTERMEDIARY NEEDS TO REMAIN PATIENT AND

     CALM PRIMARILY TO LISTEN, REPLY WHERE NECESSARY, KEEPING CLEARLY IN MIND THAT

     HE/SHE HAS TAKEN THIS JOB IN ORDER TO SUCCEED TO RECONCILE THE RELATIONS OF

     BOTH THESE CONFLICTING PARTIES.

 

     IT IS SAID LIFE IS SHORT, IT IS IN TRANSIT, BETTER TO LIVE IN GOOD AND

     HELPING RELATIONSHIP THAN GETTING INTO CONFLICTS, AND IF CONFLICTS HAPPEN

     FOR WHATEVER REASONS THERE MAY BE, IT IS BETTER TO RECONCILE AND SMOOTHEN

     THE RELATIONS IN GIVE AND TAKE, IN FORGETFULNESS, AND AS SUCH BE RELIEVED OF

     THE BURDEN OF WORRIES, FAULTS AND ACCUSATIONS

……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………...