IF RELATIONS GET SOAR WITH SOMEONE, HOW TO BEHAVE -THERE IS NO DOUBT RELATIONS, FRIENDS ETC. WILL RUSH UP TO SYMPATHISE AND CHECK ABOUT THE REASONS. -TRUE, IT IS UNAVOIDABLE AND IT IS A FACT AS WELL. ALL ARE TO BE WELL RECEIVED, HOW TO REPLY IS THE QUESTION TO BE ANSWERED. -NEVER TALK ILL, MAYBE SOME MAY AGREE AND SOME MAY NOT BUT SURELY DISCUSSION IF NOT WITH YOU AS A SUFFERER, BUT OUTSIDE DISCUSSIONS WILL GO ON FOR AND AGAINST. -BETTER TO SAY THAT IT IS AN ISSUE NOT SO BIG, IN LIFE UPS AND DOWNS HAPPEN, POSSIBLY ALL WILL GET SETTLED. -IF IN CASE OF INISISTENCE AND SHOWING OR ACCEPTED TO BE WELL WISHER, SHOULD THE TRUTH AND ALL CIRCUMSTANCES BE NARRATED. -IF WE DO THAT, WE WILL BE INDULDGING IN LOT OF DISCUSSION AND IF WE TALK MUCH ILL OF THE OTHER PARTY, THOUGH ONE MAY NOT SAY BUT WILL SURELY BELIEVE THAT WE ALSO MUST BE AT FAULT, BELIEVING AND COMMENTING THAT CLAPPING IS DONE BY BOTH HANDS, NOT AND NEVER BY A SINGLE HAND, DEFINITELY THERE MIGHT GONE SOMETHING WRONG ON BOTH SIDES AND EVEN IF IT HAPPENED ON ONE SIDE, THE OTHER WOULD ALSO NOT HAVE TOLERATED IT AND WOULD PERHAPS MADE IT A PRESTIGE ISSUE. -HOWEVER WHATEVER WE MAY AVOID, WE DO FEEL TO TALK TO THE BEST FRIENDS, WELL WISHES, RELATIONS, WHO WE BELIEVER ARE NOT ONLY THE WELL WISHERS BUT CONFIDENT ALSO, EVEN A LAWYER TOO, IN ORDER TO HAVE THEIR VIEWS. -BUT AS IT IS IN OUR NATURE, WE WILL BLAME THE OTHER AND POINT OUT ALL FAULTS, AND WILL AVOID TO THE ENTIRE FACTS IN TRUTH, MANY HAPPENINGS WE WILL HIDE OR MISREPRESENT. -ANYWAY DISCUSSIONS WITH SUCH PERSONS AS CITED ABOVE WILL RELIEVE US OF A LOT OF THE BURDEN AND POSSILY SOME ADVICE OR CLUE MAY TURN UP TO BE HELPFUL. -IN GENERAL EGO, VENGENCE AND PAST DEALINGS AND PAST HISTORY ALL OPEN UP TO AGGRAVATE THE SITUATION AND TO STRECH THE CONFLICT TO AN UNCOMPROMISING STAGE. BESIDES ALL ABOVE, IF EVER YOU BOTH HAPPEN TO MEET EACH OTHER IN SHOPPING. IN SOME SOCIAL FUNCTION, IN SOME RELIGIOUS OR BUSINESS LIKE GATHERING, HOW SHOULD YOU REACT? -I BEIEVE THOUGH RELATIONS HAVE GOT ESTRANGED AND/OR -EVEN BROKEN, BUT YOU HAVE NOT TURNED AS ENEMY OF EACH OTHER AND EVEN IF ENEMY, I FEEL IT WILL BE BETTER AND POLITE, TO SAY HELLO AND PERHAPS TO SAY, HOPE ALL IS WELL AND MOVE ON. SUCH A BEHAVIOUR POSSIBLY WILL DILUTE THE ENEMITY, AND MAKE THE OTHER TO FEEL AND ACCEPT THE GESTURE BUT BE CAREFUL IF YOU DO NOT INTEND TO RENEW THE RELATIONS, BETTER NOT AND NEVER INDULGE INTO THE TOPIC EVEN THOUGH THE MEETING HAPPENED INCIDENTLY, AND UNEXPECTEDLY. FURTHER QUESTION ARISES EVEN THOUGH ACCUSATIONS ARE NEITHER TALKED OVER NOR HURLED, SHOULD THE CONFLICTED ISSUE BE LEFT TO PASS BYE OR LEFT IT FOR SOME TIME BELIEVING THAT PRHAPS CIRCUMSTANCES WILL CHANGE, WISDOM WILL PREVAIL, INCONVENIENCES AND SUFFERINGS WILL APPEAR TO CAUSE WORRIES AND REFLECTION AS TO WHAT IS THE USE OF KEEPING THESE ESTRANGED RELATIONS, BETTER IT IS TO TALK OVER AND AND RECONCILE OURSELVES AND IN RELATIONS TOO. HOWEVER WHEN SUCH A THINKING AND FEELING WILL DEVELOP, THE QUESTION WILL ARISE AS TO WHO IS TO TAKE THE INITIATIVE. POSSIBLY SUCH AN OVERTURE MAY BE REBUFFED BY THE OTHER, BRINGING OUT THE PAST STORIES, AND ACCUSATIONS OF ALL SORTS. BESIDES SUCH AN UNWANTED BEVARIOUR, IT IS POSSIBLE THE OTHER PARTY MIGHT TAKE IT AS YOUR WEAKNESS AND EXPLOIT IT IN FUTURE. HENCE AS SUCH, PERSONAL VISIT AND PERSONAL OVERTURE GENERALLY DO SEEM TO BE THE RIGHT ANSWER, THEN THE QUESTION ARISES AS TO HOW TO RESOLVE THE CONFLICT. ESSENTIAL IT IS THAT SOME INTERMEDIARY, RELATION OR FRIEND, WHO IS SYMPATHETIC AND HAD VERY CLOSE AND CORDIAL RELATIONS ON BOTH SIDES ALL ALONG EARLIER TO THIS HAPPENING OF THE PRESENT CONFLICT, WILL CERTAINLY BE IN A GOOD POSITION TO TALK TO BOTH THE PARTIES, THOUGH EACH ONE WILL BE VENTING HIS/HER GRIEVANCES AND REASONING IN ACCUSATION ETC., THE INTERMEDIARY NEEDS TO REMAIN PATIENT AND CALM PRIMARILY TO LISTEN, REPLY WHERE NECESSARY, KEEPING CLEARLY IN MIND THAT HE/SHE HAS TAKEN THIS JOB IN ORDER TO SUCCEED TO RECONCILE THE RELATIONS OF BOTH THESE CONFLICTING PARTIES. IN MY VIEW, IT IS SAID LIFE IS SHORT, IT IS IN TRANSIT, BETTER TO LIVE IN GOOD AND HELPING RELATIONSHIP THAN GETTING INTO CONFLICTS, AND IF CONFLICTS HAPPEN FOR WHATEVER REASONS THERE MAY BE, IT IS BETTER TO RECONCILE AND SMOOTHEN THE RELATIONS IN GIVE AND TAKE, IN FORGETFULNESS, AND AS SUCH BE RELIEVED OF THE BURDEN OF WORRIES, FAULTS AND ACCUSATIONS ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………... BY VASDEVLOOND, FOUNDER OF MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT, COST FREE MARRIAGE BUREAU, FOUNDED IN 2015. CONTACTS 9811943867 VASDEVLOOND@GMAIL.COM