FIGHTING IS IT GOOD OR BAD, IS IT ESSENTIAL OR AVOIDABLE, IS THERE NO SUBSTITUTE OR ANSWER TO AVOID FIGHTING, DOES FIGHTING BRING RELIEF AND IF SO, FOR HOW LONG AND WITH WHAT CONSEQUENCES. I WILL SAY IT DEPENDS ON THE PURPOSE 1. GOOD FOR PROTECTION OF THE COUNTRY BY MILITARY 2. GOOD FOR GOVERNANCE 3. GOOD TO PROTECT WHOM WE LOVE DEARLY, LIKE WIFE, SISTERS, BROTHERS, , FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES ETC. 4 GOOD TO FIGHT AS WRESTLERS 5. GOOD TO FIGHT TO PLEASE THE PUBLIC AS WE SEE IN CINEMA, THEATRE ETC. ON THE CONTRARY IT IS BAD AS WELL AS FIGHT DEFINITELY HURTS THE OPPONENT AND ADVERSARY. IT IS A FACT THAT HURTING SOMEONE HAS ITS LASTING EFFECT WHILE RESPITE IS TEMPORARY. HARTED ONE WILL NEVER FORGET, WHILE THE WINNER WILL REMEMBER IT FOR SOMETIME AND WILL FORGET SOON AND will GET TO OTHER JOBS/ACTIVITIES. THUS FIGHTING SHALL CREATE ENEMIES, REVENGE, REBELLION, REVOLT, AND COUNTER ATTACK BY ALL MEANS TO AVENGE THE SUFFERINGS. THEN QUESTION ARISES WHY ONE SHOULD FIGHT AND WHAT GAIN ONE DERIVES. IT HAPPENS FOR GAIN TO ONESELF, IF NOT, SATISFACTION AT LEAST. THEN WHAT ARE THE CAUSES WHICH INCITE ONE TO FIGHT; 1. HATRED 2. REVENGE 3. BETTER AND SUPERIOR POWER, MAYBE IN PHYSIQUE, MONEY POWER, POLITICAL POWER, GROUPISM ETC. ETC. 4. TO AVOID BEING AND/OR FEELING HURT AND SUFFERING ALL THE TIME 5. TO TEACH A LESSON 6. TO CREATE SUPREMACY AND MONOPOLY, SO ON AND SO FORTH. HENCE IT WILL BE BETTER NOT TO ENGAGE IN FIGHT EXCEPT WHEN IT IS FOR THE COUNTRY, NATION AND IN PUBLIC INTEREST AND FOR ALL OTHER SITUATIONS, FITHTING MUST BE AVOIDED AND AS SUCH ONE MUST THINK OF OTHER ALTERNATIVES WHICH HELP IN NOT HURTING THE CONCERNED PERSON BUT I WILL SAY RATHER SHALL HELP TO SMOOTHEN FEELINGS AND RELATIONSHIP.FURTHER IN THIS THINKING, IT GETS IMPERATIVE NEVER TO FIGHT WITH WIFE AND THE CHILDREN AT ALL AS THESE SHALL TURN OUT TO BE THE MOST HURTING ONES AND ONCE INDULGED IN SHALL NEVER BE FORGETTEN, PARDONED THE LEAST. ON THE CONTRARY IN RELATIONSHKP WITH WIFE, FIGHT WILL TAKE TO SERIOUS CONSEQUES, BRINGING NO GOOD EXCEPT THAT REPENTANCE AND REPENTANCE WITH NO EFFORTS TO GET BACK, BECAUSE OF EGO, FEAR AND CONSEQUENCES OF ALL SORTS. SAME GOES WITH THE CHILDREN. IN CONSEQUENCE THESE RELATIONS ARE SO DELICATE THAT ONCE AFFECTED AND INFLICTED, IT SHALL REMAIN HARD AND MOSTLY IMPOSSIBLE TO MEND. AS FOR OTHERS ARE CONCERNED, ONE MUST NOT RESORT TO FIGHT EXCEPT IN EXTREMES AND WHICH WILL HAPPEN TO BE RARE, HENCE THINK OF ALTERNATIVES TO FIGHT MUST BE EMPLOYED LIKE . EXPLANATION, PERSUASION, APOLOGISING, COMPENSATING, TOLERANCE ETC. ALSO BY SELF REALISATION THAT IF I AM HURT, HOW WOULD I FEEL AND IF THAT HURT DOES PINCH ME, CERTAINLY IT WILL DIFINTELY BE PINCHING THE OTHER ONE AS WELL,. IN CONCLUSION; IT IS NO GOOD TO FIGHT, EMPLOY ALL MEANS NOT TO HURT ANYONE, BELIEVE NEVER AND NERER TO FIGHT OR EVEN TO THINK EVER ABOUT THOSE WHO ARE NEAR AND DEAR ONES AND ARE TREATED AS MINE ............................................................................. written by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau NGO, to contact vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com