CHAPTER-II CHILDREN WHEN SMALL THEY LOVE EACH OTHER AND WHEN GET ADULT AND THEREAFTER FIGHT AMONGST THEM, WHY SO? IT IS A FACT, GENERALLY IT HAPPENS SO, THEN THE QUESTION ARISES IS THERE ANY ANSWER TO AVOID SUCH RIFTS AND TO KEEP RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH IF NOT LOVING ONE, AT WORKING AND HELPING EACH OTHER AS AND WHEN AND/OR EVER NEED ARISES FIRST AND FOREMOST IT IS ESSENTIAL TO KNOW AND BELIEVE AND MAKE ALL FULLY DEVOTED EFFORTS TO FIND THE SOLUTION, AS IT IS SAID THAT EACH PROBLEM HAS ITS ANSWER, WHAT IT NEEDS IS TO KNOW EXACTLY WHAT ARE THE CAUSES, ANYLYSE THE CAUSES, IF NECESSARY GET INTO DISCUSSION, TO LISTEN MORE AND REPLY LESS, DO MANAGE NOT TO OPEN UP YOUR MIND UNLESS THE SUBJECT HAS BEEN DISCUSSED WITH ALL THE CONCERNED CHILDREN AND FULLY DELIBERATED ON THE VIEWS OF ALL, LOOK TO ALL PROS AND CONS, AND THEN TALK TO EACH INDIVIDUALLY AND WHEN EACH ONE IS MORE OR LESS CONVINCED, THEN MAKE ALL SIT TOGETHER EXPRESS AND EXPLAIN YOUR VIEWS. BE PATIENT TO LISTEN TO EACH ONE’S CRITICISM, PERHAPS ANTAGONISM, USE YOUR INFLUENCE, EXPLAIN AND CITE EXAMPLES OF WHAT ARE THE ADVANTAGES OF REMAINING UNITED AND WHAT ARE THE DISADVANTAGE IF EVER YOU CHILDREN FIGHT AMONGST YOURSELVES, THINK OVER IT VERY CLEARLY AND PRECISELY WHEN AS PARENTS WE ARE DOING ALL, AS WE HAVE DONE BEFORE FOR YOUR EDUCATION ETC., YOU TRUST IN OUR JUSTICE AND RESPECT OUR DECISION DESPITE THE FACT THAT YOU MAY NOT BE GETTING ALL WHAT YOU HAD WISHED FOR BUT SURELY AS PARENTS WE HAVE TAKEN FULL CARE OF YOU ALL AND TAKEN THIS DECISION IN FULL DELIBERATION AND IN FULL JUSTICE. 1. FIRST AND FOREMOST IMPORTANT AS TO HOW UPBRINGING HAS BEEN DONE OF THE CHILDREN, HAVE PARENTS GIVEN SOME TIME AND EXPLAINED THAT STRENGTH, PROGRESS AND REPUATION OF THE HOUSE WILL BE BETTER KNOWN IN SOCIETY WHEN YOU CHILDREN WILL REMAIN UNITED, WHATEVER ISSUES MAY COME ABOUT, DO MANAGE TO SIT TOGETHER, DISCUSS AND DECIDE UNANIMOUSLY AND THEREAFTER YOU ALL MOVE ON WITH THE DECISION TAKEN. 2. PARENTS WILL SET AN EXAMPLE BY THEIR OWN ACTION AS TO HOW THEY ARE DEALING AND KEEPING RELATIONS WITH THEIR BROTHERS AND SISTERS. IF ALL ARE IN FINE RELATIONSHIP, THEY WILL BE DISCUSSING AND FINDIING OUT SOLUTION TO IF ANY OF THEIR BOTHER OR SISTER IS FACING SOME PROBLEM AND IS WORRIED ABOUT, WHICH MEANS THEY WILL ALWAYS REMAIN PREPARED TO HELP EACH OTHER AS AND WHEN ANY DIFFICULTY ARISES. ONCE SUCH RELATIONS ARE FORMED, IT IS BUT NATURAL THAT THEY WILL BE MEETING FROM TIME TO TIME WITH EACH ONE’S FAMILY AND CHILDREN, WILL AS SUCH ENJOY THEIR RELATIONSHIP AND HOLIDAYS AS WELL. IF SUCH ARE THE RELATIONS OF THE PARENTS WITH THEIR BROTHERS AND SISTERS, THE CHILDREN WILL ALSO BE GROOMED WITH THE SAME THINKING AND WILL GENERALLY DO ALL TO KEEP HEALTHY RELATIONS WITH EACH OTHER AND HELP EACH OTHER AS AND WHEN REQUIRED. EVEN IF MARRIED AND HAVING THEIR OWN FAMILIES, WITH THE THINKING THAT BROTHERS AND SISTERS ARE BLOOD RELATIONS AND AS SUCH ALL THESE DESPITE HAVING THEIR OWN FAMILY ESTABLISHMENTS,WILL MEET EACH OTHER FROM TIME TO TIME AND ENJOY THEIR LIFE BY TALKING AND DISCUSSING FRANKLY AND LOVINGLY. 3.PARENTS ROLE AT WHATEVER AGE THEY ARE, IS ESSENTIAL TO GROOM THEIR CHILDREN BY EXPLAINING, MEDIATING AND SORTING OUT ISSUES, IF EVER THESE ARISE AMONGST THE CHILDREN, BY THEIR OWN BEHAVIOUR, PATIENCE AND CITING EXAMPLES THAT THOSE FAMILIES WHO DUE TO SOME MINOR OR BIGGER GAIN, HAVE FOUGHT WITH EACH OTHER, MOSTLY THEY HAVE LOST ALL IN FIGHTS AND LEGAL BATTLES WHILE ON THE CONTRARY THOSE WHO HAVE REMAINED UNITED AND HAVE KEPT LOVING AND HELPING RELATIONSHIP WITH EACH OTHER, THEY HAVE ALWAYS PROGRESSED,, OUR FAMILY IS A SOLID EXAMPLE, DURING YOUR GROWING AGE, YOU ALL CHILDREN HAVE BEEN UNITED, HAVE BEEN HELPING US AS PARENTS, YOU HAVE ALL THROUGH SUPPORTED US AND YOU HAVE SEEN HOW OUR FAMILY HAS PROGRESSED MUCH BETTER THAN COMPARED WITH SO MANY OTHERS. 3. THE MAIN ISSUES WHICH THE PARENTS ARE CONFRONTED WITH MOSTLY RELATE TO: 1. FEELING THAT PARENTS DISCRIMINATE BETWEEN EACH OF THEM 2. THEY GENERALLY ARE MORE LENIENT, MORE CONSIDERATE, AND DO ALL TO HELP THE ONE WHO HAS NOT MUCH PROGRESSED, NEITHER IS MUCH AMBITIOUS, NOR MAKES ENOUGH EFFORTS FOR HIS PROGRESS AND UPLIFT. 3. FORGET TO REALISE THAT WHO IS THEIR CHILD WHO HAS DONE ALL SACRIFICE FINANCIALLY AND ALSO TO SUPPORT THEM IN ALL DIFFICULT TIMES AND ALSO THE EFFORTS PUT IN BY HIM IN THE GROWTH AND PROGRESS OF ALL BROTHERS AND SISTERS IN THEIR EDUCATION, MARRIAGES, SETTLEMENT ETC. 4. IN DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS, PARENTS GENERALLY BELIEVE IN EQUALITY CITING REASON THAT THEY LOVE YOU ALL THE CHILDREN EQUALLY AND DO NOT DISCRIMINATE IN ANY MANNER, NOR NEED TO BE BLAMED/ACCUSED FOR PARTIALITY. 5. PARENTS ALSO REMAIN LENIENT AND WANT TO GIVE TO THE CHILD MORE WHO IS TAKING CARE OF THEM IN THEIR OLD AGE. 6. PARENTS MANY A TIME DISLIKE THE ONE WHO TALKS FRANKLY AND BLUNTLY ABOUT HIS BROTHERS AND SISTERS AND PERHAPS DIFFERS IN THE VIEWS OF HIS PARENTS. IF THE ABOVE ISSUES ARE TACKLED BY THE PARENTS WITH FULL DELIBERATION AND IN JUSTICE PERHAPS THERE WILL BE LFT NO ISSUE FOR THE CHILDREN TO FIGHT AMONGST THEMSELVES, RATHER INSTEAD WILL REMAIN UNITED BY ALL MEANS FOR THE BENEFIT AND PROGRESS OF EACH OF THEM AND ALSO FOR THE HAPPINESS OF THEIR PARENTS. MESSAGE MARRIAGE GUIDANCE IS UNIQUE FOR REASONS:- 1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM 2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS. 3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA 4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs NOR AFTERWARD 5. 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