CHIDREN WHEN SMALL LOVE EACH OTHER BUT WHEN THEY GROW AND GET ADULT, THEY FIGHT, WHAT ARE THE ANSWER


24 July 2024 09:10

CHAPTET III NOW LET ME ANSWER AS TO EACH OF THE QUESTIONS RAISED ABOVE: ANSWERS 1 & 2.DISCRIMINATION BETWEEN CHILDREN: IT IS TRUE, PARENTS GENERALLY TRY BY ALL MEANS TO HELP THE WEAKER AND LEAST AMBITIOUS CHILD PURELY WITH THE THINKING THAT IF DURING THEIR LIFE TIME, THEY CAN SOMEHOW BETTER HIS SITUATION, IF NOT EQUAL TOTHE STATUS OF THE OTHER CHILDREN, AT LEAST THEY (THE PARENTS) MUST DO ALL TO BRING THIS WEAKER CHILD’S LEVEL TO A POSITION THAT HE CAN LIVE COMFORTABLY AND FOSTER BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS BROTHERS AND SISTERS. PARENTS ALSO BELIEVE MOSTLY THAT BY GIVING SOME ADDITIONAL HELP AND BY EXPLAINING, ADVISING, POSSIBLY THEY WILL BE ABLE TO BOOST HIM UP TO STRUGGLE BY ALL MEANS TO MAKE PROGRESS MORE OR LESS LIKE HIS BROTHERS AND SISTERS. WHEN OTHER CHILDREN FEEL THAT PARENTS ARE RENDERING SPECIAL FAVOUR OF THEIR LETHARGIC AND NOT HARD WORKING BROTHER, THEY DO HARBOUR ILL-FEELING IN THEIR MIND.AND TEND NOT TO ACCEPT THEIR PARENTS VIEWS AND ACTION HENCE PARENTS NEED TO EXPLAIN TO REST OF THEIR CHILDREN, IF BIT BY BIT WE ALL HELP YOUR SO-CALLED BROTHER, THERE IS EVERY POSSIBILITY THAT HE WILL REALISE AND APPRECIATE THE HELPING HAND GIVEN BY YOU ALL AND EVEN GIVEN BY US AS PARENTS, IT IS BUT NATURAL AND IS EXPECTED S WELL THAT HE WILL GET ENCOURAGED TO MAKE MORE RATHER ALL EFFORTS TO BETTER OFF HIS SITUATION. -IF DESPITE OUR EXPLANATION AND HELP, STILL HE DOES NOT ENGAGE IN EFFORTS AND THE DIRECTION WE GIVE HIM, THEN WE WILL BE LEFT WITH NO CHOICE BUT TO LEAVE HIM TO HIS FATE. -IT IS POSSIBLE THAT IN THE GROWING AGE, THERE IS NO REALISATION AS TO WHAT DOES LIFE MEANS, HOW MUCH MONEY AND STATUS COUNT IN LIFE, AND AS ONE GROWS IN AGE ONE GENERALLY REALISES HIS MISTAKES AND DOES ALL TO BETTER OFF HIS SITUATION AND WHEN AT THIS STAGE SOME FINANCIAL HELP AND GUIDANCE ARE GIVEN, SUCH A CHILD DOES FEEL ENCOURAGED AND DOES ALL TO IMPROVE UPON HIS POSITION. 3. IT IS A FACT AND IT GENERALLY HAPPENS THAT THE PAERENTS TAKE THIS AS THEIR NATURAL DUTY AND RESPONSIBILITY TOWARDS SUCH A CHILD, WHILE ON THE CONRARY IT SO HAPPENS THAT MOSTLY WITH THE ELDEST ONE, ILL- FEELINGS AS SUCH DO BREW UP IN THE ELDEST CHILD, AND SOOER OR LATER THESE FLARE UP IN ANGUISH AND FIGHTS SOME TIME. -IT IS ESSENTIAL FOR THE PARENTS TO BESTOW APPRECIATION TO THIS ELDEST CHILD BY ALL MEANS, ENGAGE IN LOVE AND DISCUSSION AND IF POSSIBLLE, MAY OFFER HIM SOME FINANCIAL HELP FROM TIME TO TIME BEFORE ENGAGING IN THE DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS.. 4. IN DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS, PARENTS MUST TAKE ALL CARE TO SHOW LOVE FOR EACH OF THEIR CHILDREN EQUALLY SO THAT NONE FEELS THAT HE IS BEING DISCRIMINATED OR NEGLECTED AND HOW TO DO IT, PERHAPS FOLLOWING ACTIONS COULD BE THE BEST ANSWER: 1, GET ALL THE ASSETS EVALUATED 2. PREFERENCE BE GIVEN TO ALLOCATE THAT PROPERTY/ASSET/BUSINESS WHICH A PARTICULATE CHILD IS MANAGING OR HOLDING. 3. IN THIS IT IS ESSENTIAL TO ADD ROYALTY TO THE VALUE OF THAT ASSET/BUSINESS ETC. 4. REST OF THE ASSETS ARE GIVEN TO REST OF THEM AS THEY MUTUALLY AGREE AND IF NOT, THE CHOICE SHOULD BE GIVEN TO ACCEPT THE PRESENT ASSET AND IF NOT TO TAKE THE EQUIVALENTAMOUNT IN CASH/KIND AND DO WITH THAT WHATEVER HE WANTS TO SET UP HIS OWN BUSINESS AND/OR DO INVESTMENTS IN THE MANNER HE WANTS 5. IN DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS BESIDES ROYALTY, PERHAPS HOW MANY YEARS EACH CHILD HAS PUT IN THAT BUSINESS, PERHAPS FOR EVALUATING AND DISTRIBUTING THAT BUSINESS, WEIGHTAGE MUST BE GIVEN TO THE YEARS EACH HAS PUT IN TO TO DEVELOP AND GROW THE BUSINESS. 5. FURTHER FACTOR WHICH MOSTLY HAPPENS AND IS CURRENT IN THE CHILDREN, THEY DO NOT FORGET THEIR PAST BEHAVIOURS AND RELATIONS AND CONTINUE DISLIKING, AVOIDING OR EVEN FIGHTING WITH EACH OTHER. IN REPLY TO SUCH A SITUATION AND SUCH BEHAVIOURS, PARENTS NEED TO CALL AND EXPLAIN TO EACH CHILD THAT WHAT HAPPENED, IT HAPPENEND PERHAPS BY PLEASANTRY OR OUT OF IGNORANCE, LET IT BE FORGOTTEN AS TO RECALL THE PAST INCIDENTS WILL BRING IN NOTHING GOOD, RATHER INSTEAD COULD BRING IN SOME SORT OF HARM, IN WHATEVER MANNER IT MAY BE, BUT IT WILL HARM DEFINITELY, HENCE IT IS BETTER TO FORGET AND EFFACE THOSE HAPPENINGS ALTOGETHER AND INSTEAD MANAGE TO BUILD HAPPIER AND CLOSER RELATIONS KEEPING IN MIND THAT HE IS YOUR BROTHER AND BLOOD RELATION AND IS NOT AN ENEMY IN ANY MANNER. FURTHER AS I HAVE TOLD YOU ALREADY, THE MORE AND BETTER UNITED YOU WILL BE, YOU WILL CERTAINLY MAKE PROGRESS AND WILL BE RESPECTED BY SOCIETY AT LARGE. ……………. IF SOMEHOW ALL EFFORTS MADE BY THE PARENTS FAIL TOTALLY OR NOT TO THE EXTENT DESIRED, THEN WHAT THE PARENTS SHOULD DO IS THE QUESTION. IN ANSWER TO THIS, FIRSTLY I BELIEVE THAT SUCH A SITUATION WILL NEVER HAPPEN DUE TO RESPECT FOR THE PARENTS, THEIR EXPLANATIONS AND JUSTIFICATIONS AS ALSO THE THINKING AND WISDOM BY CHILDREN WILL CERTAINLY INFLUENCE THEM TO FORGET WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST AND BETTER IT IS TO RECONCILE AS WE ARE BEING ADVISED BY OUR PARENTS, TO KEEP GOOD RELATIONS AMONGST US AS BEST AS WE CAN AND IF NOT MORE, AT LEAST WHEN WE ASSEMBLE TOGETHER IN OUR PARENTS HOUSE AND WITH THEM, AS SUCH WE COMMIT ALL AND ASSURE OUR PARENTS THAT WE WILL DO OUR BEST TO KEEP GOOD RELATIONS BOTH FOR US AS ADVISED BY YOU AND ALSO TO RENDER YOU PEACE AND SATISFACTION AS OUR DEAREST PARENTS. BESIDES TAKING ABOVE STEPS, IF THE PARENTS WILL CALL THEIR CHILDREN TO THEIR BIRTHDAY AND/OR CELEBRATION OF SOME FUNCTIONS OF THEIR CHILDREN FROM TIME TO TIME. IT IS BUT NATURAL THE MORE FREQUENTLY ALL BROTHERS AND SISTERS WILL MEET TOGETHER, THERE IS GREAT POSSIBLITY THAT THEIR RELATIONSHIP WILL GET AMELIORATED AND THE PAST WILL ALSO GET FORGOTTEN SLOWLY AND SLOWLY. IN EXTREME, IF NOTHING MORE HAPPENS, BY ALL PROBABILITY. CHILDREN WILL NEVER THINK OF GETTING TO THE COURT TO SETTLE THEIR ISSUES WHEN THEY WILL BE MEETING EACH OTHER AT DIFFERENT OCCASIONS. MESSAGE MARRIAGE GUIDANCE IS UNIQUE FOR REASONS:- 1. EXHAUSTIVE BIODATA FORM 2. MATCHES SENT ARE FULLY VETTED AS PER REQUIREMENTS. 3. WHEN APPROVED BY BOTH BOY AND GIRL, WHEN CONFIRMATION OF NOC IS RECEIVED, BIODATAS TO BOTH ARE GIVEN VICE VERSA 4. FREE OF COST, NEITHER FOR REGISTRATION NEITHER AGAINST NOCs NOR AFTERWARD 5. ON REQUEST, BOTH SPOUSES WITH THEIR FAMILIES ARE RECEIVED AT MGNC OFFICE WHEREIN MEETS ARE ARRANGED, DISCUSSIONS ARE HELD, DOUBTS, IF ANY,ARE CLEARED AND EXPLAINED EXHAUSTIVELY. 6. 10,000 BIODATAS ARE HELD IN STOCK OF ALMOST ALL COMMUNITIES. 7. 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