SELF ESTEEM AND SELF IDENTITY -NO DOUBT, BOTH ARE IMPORTANT AS A SOCIAL BEING AND ALSO ESSNTIAL TO LIVE IN SOCIETY AND AMONGST ALL SORT OF PEOPLE AROUND -HOWEVER THERE IS DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LIVING ALONE AND LIVING IN A MAARRIED LIFE -MARRIED LIFE DOES MAKE IT ESSENTIAL THAT HUSBAND AND WIFE WILL LIVE TOGETHER AND ENJOY THEIR LIFE IN TOGETHERNESS WHICH IN TURN COMPELS BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE TO DILUTE THEIR FREEDOM AND SELF IDENTITY FOR THE SAKE OF LIVING AND LEADING A HARMONIIOUS MARRIED LIFE -SUCH AN UNDERSTANDING AND WILLINGNESS BECOME A COMMITMENT IN FRONT OF BOTH THE PARENTS, RELATIONS, INVITEES AND IN FRONT OF THE PRIEST (PANDITJI) AS WELL -DESPITE SOME SKIRMISHES HERE AND THERE LIFE GOES ON, MOSTLY IN ACCOMMODATION AND AVOIDANCE OF CONFLICTS BY ALL MEANS -CHILDREN ARE BORN, RESPONSIBILITIES MULTIPLY -ALL GOES ON, DESPITE CERTAIN DIFFERENCES OF ALL SORTS, FOR THE SAKE OF BEST UPBRING OF THEIR HILDREN IN HOPES AND ASPIRATIONS THAT SOON AS THEY WILL GET ADULT, THEY WILL NOT ONLY GET SETTLED ON THEIR OWN, BUT WILL SURELY FULFILL PARENTS’ ASPIRATIONS AND BRING NAME AND FAME TO THE FAMILY -AS A RESULT THEREOF UNDOUBTEDLY, SELF ESTEEM AND SELF IDENTITY GET FURTHER DILUTED. -WHEN THIS SITUATION IS REACHED, PARENTS DO NOT BOTHER ABOUT THEMSELVES, THEY GET READY TO DO ALL WHICH WILL KEEP THEIR CHILDREN AND THEIR FAMILIES HAPPY. -HENCE AT THIS STAGE, SELF IDENTITY AND SELF ESTEEM GET COMPLETELY DILUTED AND REPLACED TO SEE AND PROVIDE TO THEIR CHILDREN THEIR OWN EXPERIENCE OF LIFE AS HOW BEST AND JOYOUS THEIR CHILDREN MAY LIVE AND SPEND THEIR LIFE IN THEIR FAMILIES. -WITH THIS THINKING, PARENTS DO ALL SORTS OF SACRIFICES TO DEMONSTRATE AND EXPLAIN TO THEIR CHILDREN THAT LIFE CONSISTS IN HAPPINESS AND FOR THAT UNDERSTANDING, CARING, SHARING AND ACCOMODATING EACH OTHER AS EACH ONE IS BECOME ESSENTIAL TO LIVE A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE. -HENCE HEREAFTER SELF ESTEEM AND SELF IDENTITY BECOME INSIGNIFICAT, LOVE, HAPPINESS OF CHILDREN AND THEIR SUCCESS GET TO THE FOREFRONT. -ALAS, STILL DESPITE ALL THIS, SOME PARENTS STILL ESPOUSE FOR THEIR SELF ESTEEM AND SELF IDENTITY WITH PRETEXT THAT WHATEVER HABITS ARE FORMED IN CHILDHOOD, NEVER THESE CHANGE EVER. -I THINK IT IS SELF DECEIPT IF THIS HAS BEEN THE CASE HOW SUCH PARENTS HAVE LIVED THEIR LIFE SO FAR AND WHAT THEY HAVE NOT DONE TO ADJUST AND ACCOMMODATE WITH THE ASPIRATIONS AND VIEWS OF THEIR CHILDREN -THEN WHERE WERE GONE SELF ESTEEM AND SELF IDENTITY, IT IS JUST A FALSE THINKING -ESSENTIALLY TO KNOW AND REMEMBER IF PARENTS DECIDE TO HAVE CHILDREN. THEY MUST BECOME EMBODIMENT OF MORAL, SELF SACRIFICE AND FOUNTAIN OF LOVE ALWAYS AS HUSBAND AND WIFE. ……………………………………………………………………………………. Conclusions: It is essential that in love for their children they are obliged to make all sorts of sacrifices to show to their children as to how they can live a happy married life, irrespective of what had been their habits and attitudes before marriage. …………………………………………………………………………………….. Vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept Cost free marriage bureau, founded in 2015. Contacts Vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com