LIFE OVERALL IS FULL OF DECEPTIONS, WE MAKE ONE, BREAK ANOTHER, LIFE GOES ON, PROBLEMS NEVER END, TILL THE END WE CONTINUE THINKING AND DISTRESSED IF THAT DAY HAPPENS, WHATEVER I HAVE ACHIEVED WILL CRUMBLE DOWN AND/OR WILL BE WASTED, PERHAPS TO NON-EXISTENCE. -THESE ARE FACTS OF LIFE AND HARDLY FEW AND AT THE MOST 1% LIVE CONTENTED AND GET TO END FULLY CONTENTED, BELIEVE THAT THEY HAVE DONE WHATEVER THEY COULD DO TO BRING THE FAMILIES TO CERTAIN SUCCESS, NOW THAT THEIR SIBLINGS ARE WELL GROOMED AND INTELLIGENT ENOUGH TO GROW IT FURTHER. -QUESTION ARISES WHY WHEN WE ARE INTELLIGENT, DILIGENT, MAKE ALL SORT OF STUDIES AND ANALYSIS, WHY AND WHERE THERE REMAINS THE SCOPE FOR DECEPTION. -IN THIS EFFORT AND RACE OF STRUGGLE FOR ACHIEVING THE GOAL, IT IS NOT ONLY THAT WE ARE ALONE, WE COME ACROSS MANY COMPETITORS AND COME ACROSS MANY UNFORESEEN CIRUMSTANCES AND HANDICAPS AS WELL.. -FOR EXAMPLE ONE IS VERY BRIGHT. HE/SHE JOINS AN ORGANISATION WHICH IS SMALL, HE/SHE THINKS THAT THERE WILL BE BIG SCOPE TO LEARN AND MOVE ON FASTER NOT ONLY MYSELF BUT ALSO BRING THE ORGANISATION TO MARVELOUS GROWTH. -BUT QUITE SOME TIME IT DOES NOT HAPPEN, WHY, BECAUSE IT IS NOT KNOWN OR IS NOT ANALYSED AS TO WHAT IS THE VISION OF THE OWNERS/ DIRECTORS/WHAT IS THEIR BUSINESS PHILOSOPY OR POSSIBLY THE PRESENT OWNERS ARE IN OLD AGE, THEY MAY RETIRE AND PLAN TO SHUT OR SELL OFF THEIR BUSINESS. HENCE AFTER SOME TIME WHATEVER EFFORTS OR SUGGESTIONS SUCH A PERSON MAKES, THESE ARE NOT MUCH RELISHED, IF RELISHED, THERE IS NO WILL FOR EXPANSION AND/OR THERE ARE NO FINANCES OR MAYBE THERE IS RESISTANCE FROM IMMEDIAT BOSS AND/OR HIGHER HIERACHY TO KEEP HIM/HER CHECKMATED AND KEEP HIM/HER IN THE SITUATION HE/SHE WAS SELECTED AND IS PERFORMING, AND PERHAPS IN ORDER TO KEEP HIM/HER SATISFIED, HE/SHE IS AWARDED SOME EXTRA INCREMENTS/BONUS/ AND/OR SOME OTHER BENEFITS. THUS THE PROGRESS OF SUCH A PERSON GETS VERY SLOW, POSSIBLY THE MOTICATION AND INSIDE FIRE ALSO GETS MITIGATED. -IN CONTRAST TO THIS, ONE WHO JOINS A BIG ORGANISATION WHERE ALL THE SYSTEMS, RULES AND REGULATIONS ARE WELL DEFINED, SOCIAL HARMONAY ARE ALSO TAKEN CARE FULLY WELL, BESIDES THERE IS AN OPENING TO APPEAR IN INTERNAL EXAMS AND COMPETITIONS, THIS PERSON WHO IS AMBITIOUS AND HAS INBUILT FIRE TO PROGRESS FASTER, DOES TAKE TO EXAMS AND IN NO TIME REACHES BETTER AND PERHAPS HIGHER HIERARCHY. TO ANALYSE THE WORKING, FORESEE WHAT THE COMPETITORS ARE DOING, HOW THE FUTURE WILL UNVEIL. GETS THE CHANCE TO COMMUNICATE HIS/HER VIEWS. SINCE THIS ORGANISATION IF WELL STRUCTURED WITH COMPETENT BOSSES/DIRECTORS AT THE TOP, HIS/HER VIEW WILL BE SCRUITINISED, AND IF FOUND FAVOURABLE, NOT ONLY THAT HE/SHE WLL BE GIVEN THE CHANCE TO MOVE ON TO HIGHER ESHELL, SO ON AND SO FORTH. -NOW IN THESE TWO SPECIFIC INSTANCES, IT IS THE GUIDANCE, BACKGROUND KNOWLEDGE, STUDY OF THE ORGANISATION BY THE ONE INTERESTED TO BE INTERVIEWED AND JOIN IT, THE ONE GOT THE RESOURCES, KEENNESS TO CHECK AND ALSO THE CHANCE TO SOME EXTENT, WHICH FAVOURED HIM/HER WHILE IN THE OTHER CASE, AS THE ORGANISATION WAS NOT WELL STRUCTURED, OWNERS WERE GETTING OLD, PERHAPS THEIR CHILDREN OVER TO TAKE OVER WITHOUT EXPERIENCE OR ARE NOT BEING ALLOWEDTO FUNCTION IN FULL FREEDOM TO TAKE DECISIONS, EVERYTHING IMAGINED AND ENTHUSED, FELL FLAT POSSIBLY TO MAR THE MOTIVATION OF SUCH A BRILLIANT AND AMBITIOUS PERSON. -QUITE SOME TIME MISCALCULATIONS AND OUTSIDE CIRCUMSTANCES DO PLAY THEIR PART TO PROVOKE DECEPTION. -BESIDES IN LIFE, MARRIAGE PLAYS A GREAT PART. MANY FAIL, AND RUN INTO DECEPTION THOSE WHO BELIEVE WHATEVER WAS TO HAPPEN HAS HAPPENED AND THAT NOW THEY HAVE TO MAKE IT A SUCCESS, GO INTO MOULDING THEMSELVES, SHUN EGO, BECOME PRATICAL TO LISTEN, UNDERSTAND, SUGGEST AND IF NOT AGREED, GET TO CONCILIATORY ACCOMMODATIVE ATTITUDE AND BEHAVIOUR AND THUS SUCCEED. WHILE IN MANY CASES EGO AND RETALIATION SUPERSEDE VISDOM, CONFLICTS HAPPEN WHICH MANY A TIME LEAD TO DIVORCES. IT IS A PITY SUCH PERSONS FORGET THAT CONFLICT IS DESTRUCTION WHILE UNITY AND ACCOMMODATION ARE THE STRENGH. -THEN HAPPEN PROBLEMS ABOUT THE CHILDREN, WHO DO NOT SHAPE UP AS ONE HAD THOUGH OF, ENVISIONED, AND DID ALL STRUGGLES. THE PARENTS BELIEVE THAT THEIR CHILDREN ARE WRONG WHILE THE CHILDREN FEEL THAT THEIR PARENTS NEED RESPECT OF COURSE, BUT IT IS NOT ESSENTIAL THAT IN ALL MATTERS THE WAY THEY THINKAND WHAT THEY THINK, WE HAVE TO GO ABOUT, WE ARE GROWN UP, WE HAVE GONE INTO LEARNING, LIVE IN THE PRESENT AGE AND PRESENT ENVIRONMENTS, HENCE IT IS THAT WE CAN AND DO THINK BETTER WHATEVER THE SITUATIONS EVOKE AND WE ARE INTELLIGENT ENOUGH NOT ONLY TO ENCOUNTER THOSE SITUATIONS BUT TO OVERCOME THEM SUCCESSFULLY. IN SUCH A SITUATION.WHERE THE PARENTS LEAVE THEIR CHILDREN TO THEIR CHOICE, THERE IS NO CONFLICT, NO DECEIPTION, BUT IT DOES NOT HAPPEN, HENCE DECEPTION OVERRULES, TO BRING IN WORRIES AND REGRETS ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN. -LIKEWISE THERE ARE SO MANY INSTANCES AND CIRCUMSTANCES WHICH DO NOT GET FOURABLE SOME MISTAKES HAPPEN, SOME TIME INTERNALS AND EXTERNAL FORCES AFFECT THE NORMAL NOT TO TALK OF SMOOTH WORKING AND RELATIONSHIPS, WHICH SHATTER ALL THE PLANNING AND ACTIONS TAKEN THEREFOR. MANY GET DRIVEN AWAY BY SUCH FORCES AND SHOCKS THEREBY REULTING IN DECEPTION AND PERHAPS TO THINK WHAT IS THE USE OF THIS LIFE. AS ONE IN GENERAL DOES NOT WANT TO BLAME ONESELF FOR THE MISTAKES COMMITTED, HURLS THE BLAME ON OTHERS CKTING VARIOUS CIRCUMSTANCES, REASONS AND EXCUSES. NOW THAT DECEPTIONS ARE MANY AND ARE ON THE INCREASE WHILE TRUST SLOWLY AND SLOWLY IN BEING WIPED OUT. SO MUCH SO THAT BEST OF TRUST WHO HAS BEEN THE WIFE IS SHATTERING AND IS COVERTING INTO RIVALARIES FOR SELF INTERESTS OR OTHERWISE. MARRIAGE HAS BECOME A LOOSE INSTITUTION, LIFE LONG TRUST EXISTS NO MORE, ONE DOES NOT WHEN IT WILL COME TO AN END, VARIOUS GUDGETS ARE INSTALLED AND USE TO CHECK THE WHEREABOUTS OF EACH OTHER, TRUST AS SUCH IS GETTING LOST AND MOSTLY IS BEING LOOKED FOR RELIEF FROM THE LAWYERS AND COUNSELS ETC. ETC. -AS TRUST AND DECEPTION ARE CORELATED, WHEN TRUST IS LOST, DECEPTION TAKES PLACE, THE GREATER THE TRUST WHEN IT IS BROKEN, IT LEADS TO GREATER DECEPTION LEADING TO TAKE REVENGE BY ALL MEANS AND IN SOME CASE TO ELEMINATE EVEN. -TRUST MOSTLY DEPENDS ON RELATIONSHIP, THE THICKER IT IS, THE BETTER IS THE RELATION- SHIP, IT COULD BE IN COMPLETE UNDERSTANDING OF EACH OTHER, COMPLETE COMPATABILITY, HAVING SAME VIEWPOINTS, SAME REASONS, SAME INTERESTS ETC. WHICH BY CHANGE OF TIME AND CIRUMSTANCES GET WEAKENED OR BROKEN ALTOGETHER AS THE LIFE PROGRESSES. IT ALSO HAPPENS THAT QUITE A FEW RELATIONS AND FRIENDS DO NOT FEEL HAPPY ABOUT THIS BLIND TRUST, THEY START TALKING ILL, DO INFLUENCE TO AN EXTENT THAT ONE STARTS DISTRUSTING, TAKING DISTANCE AND AT TIMES ENGAGING IN RETALIATION AND REVENGE. -NEVERTHELESS IT IS ESSENTIAL TO TRUST ONE, TWO OR A FEW TO SHARE COMMONALITY, TALK OVER IN ONFIDENCE, TO EXPRESS AND KEEP SECRETS, ETC. TO REPOSE TRUST IN SOMEONE OR THE OTHER IS ESSENTIAL AS WE ALL ARE SOCIAL BEINGS, TO BE IN TOGETHERNESS IS ESSENTIAL, TRUST IS NECESSARY TO BUILD UP RELATIONSHIP, DIVISION OF WORK, POWER ETC. IT ALSO BECOMES NECESSARY FOR CONTROL AND EXECUTION. THE HIGHER ONE DREAMS TO MOVE ON TOWARDS PROGRESS AND EVEN FOR PEACE, TO TRUST AND TO BRING AT LEAST SOMEONE TO CLOSENESS ARE UNAVOIDABLE BOTH FOR LIVING AND PROGRESS. CONCLUSION: deception is a curse and it is unavoidable especially when trust is broken, but as it is essential to trust someone to talk and live by, it is essential to forget the one who deceived and cheated, believe in that all are not cheats, there do exist some though few to trust, search those and befriend with them. In extreme, if one does not trust any, one must necessarily keep working and relaxing relationship with someone at least. ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. by vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com