HUSBAND AND WIFE'S ROLES REMAIN INTERCHANGEABLE 26-2-21


26 February 2021 06:21

HUSBAND AND WIFE ROLES REMAIN INTERCHANGEABLE. IN GENERAL IT IS TRUE AS WELL . WHEN ONE GETS MARRIED AND THE WIFE STEPS INTO HUSBAND'S HOUSE, SHE DOES FEEL INCLINED AND MOSTLY PREPARED TO LISTEN TO HER HUSBAND AND GENERALLY GOES BY WHAT HER HUSBAND SAYS IN A DIGNIFIFIED MANNER. HOWEVER IF HUSBAND'S ATTITUDE, MANNER, BEHAVIOUR ETC. BECOME UNBEARABLE, THEN DOES START URGE TO EXPRESS WHAT THE WIFE WISHES HOWEVER SURELY RESPECTFULLY AND IF STILL HUSBAND'S BEHAVIOUR ETC. REMAIN UNCHANGED, THEN STARTS QUESTIONING, REASONING, ARGUMENTS, LEADING TO WHO ULTIMATELY WILL HAVE TO ACCEPT WHOM, HUSBAND OR WIFE. FURTHER IT IS ALSO SAID THAT ON THE FIRST NIGHT OF MARRIAGE, IT IS MORE OR LESS DECIDED, AS TO WHO WILL GENERALLY LEAD AND WHO WILL GENERALLY ACCEPT, IN EXCEPTION OF COURSE IN FRONT OF HUSBAND'S PARENTS, RELATIONS, FRIENDS, SOCIAL GATHERINGS ETC. WHERE HUSBAND IS ACCEPTED AS THE LEADER/HUSBAND TO TAKE ALONG HIS WIFE RESPECTFULLY, TAKE FULL CARE IN A MANNER NOT TO OFFEND HER. IN THE MIDDLE STAGE OF MARRIAGE, THE EARLIER ROLE OF WHO WILL LEAD, GETS REPLACED BY ACCEPTANCE, COMPROMISE, TOLERANCE AND ADJUSTMENT, GENERALLY DOES NOT EXIST ANY SENSE OF GENDER BIAS OR THAT WIFE HAS TO BE OBEDIENT OF WHAT THE HUSBAND SAYS, IT ESSENTIAL MOVES ON TO EQUALITY, DISCUSSIONS AND CONSULTATION AND READY ACCEPTANCE AS TO WHICH IDEAS, VIEWS WILL BE BENEFICIAL FOR THE FAMILY ETC. IT IS IN THIS STAGE THAT UPBRINGING OF THE CHILDREN COMES IN, THEIR EDUCATION, ETC. HOW AND WHAT TO PLAN FOR RESPECTIVE PROGRESS AND ALSO FOR THE FAMILY AS A WHOLE. NEEDLESS TO NEGLECT OR FORGET, WHAT IS CALLED CARING AND SHARING DOES NECESSARILY TAKE PLACE AND IN SHORT PAIN OF ONE IS NOT ONLY REALISED BUT IS ACCEPTED AS SAME PAIN TO HIMSELF/HERSELF, THIS ROLE CONTINUES TILL THE SETTLING OF THE CHILDREN IN THEIR JOBS, MARRIAGE, AND ALSO GETTING THEM SETTLED IN THEIR OWN FAMILY MAKING AND PROGRESS. THEN COMES IN THE LAST STAGE OF OLD AGE WHEREBY WIFE GETS FULLY SETTLED IN HER HUSBAND'S HOUSE, REMAINS AND BECOMES VERY CLOSE TO THE CHILDREN, SHE COMPARATIVELY REMAINS PHYSICALLY STRONGER THAN THE MAN, MAN GETS RETIRED FROM JOB, BUSINESS AND EVEN FROM ALMOST ALL ACTIVITIES, HE BECOMES TOTALLY DPENDENT ON THE WIFE FOR ALL HIS NEEDS AND PERHAPS IN GENERAL THE SOLE PERSON TO TALK OVER AND DISCUSS ON VARIOUS ISSUES ETC. HENCE AT THIS STAGE, WIFE BECOMES THE COMMANDER TO GO BY AS SHE WANTS, IN CONSULTATION, IF SHE WISHES SO, BUT ALMOST FOR ALL PURPOSES WHATEVER SHE SAYS OR DOES, IS ACCEPTED BY THE HUSBAND IN HELPLESSNESS OR IN WILLINGNESS. EXPERIENCE SHOWS THOSE HUSBANDS WHO ACCEPT THIS ROLE OF ACCEPTANCE WILLINGLY, LEAD A CORDIAL AND HAPPY LIFE WHILE THOSE WHO REMAIN UNWILLING TO ACCEPT THIS REALITY AND REMAIN RESISTANT, CONTINUE REGRETTING, REPENTING AND CURSING THEIR OLD AGE. CONCLUSIONG; THE EARLIER THE UNDERSTANDING AND ADUSTMENT BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE TAKES PLACE, THE BETTER IT DRAWS THE COURSE FOR PROGRESS AND TO LIVE A COMPARATIVELY HAPPIER LIFE. --------------------------------------- written by vasdevloond, founder of marriage guidance new concept, cosg free marriage burea NGO, to contact vasdevloond 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com