FIGHTS AND FIGHTINGS ......................................................................... FIGHTING IS EXPRESSED IN VARIOUS FORMS AND MANNERS. FOR EXAMPLE, PHYSICAL, IN WORDS, IN BEHAVIOUR, IN RETALIATION, IN COMPETITION AND IN COMPARISONS ETC. ETC. IT IS AN OVERT ACTION AND /OR EXPRESSION TO HURT ANOTHER PERSON PRESUMED AND/OR REAL, ACCEPTED AS ENEMY. BUT ALL FIGHTS ARE NOT BAD. WHEN FIGHT IS APPLIED FOR -PROTECTION OF THE COUNTRY IN THE FORM OF MILITARY, NAVY, AIR FORCE, SECURITY FORCES, POLICE ETC. ETC. -COMBATS LIKE KABADIS, KUSHTIS ETC. -GYM, TO STRIKE AGAINST THE HANGING BALL ETC. -IN SHOWS LIKE CINEMAS, THEATRES COMBATS ETC. IN SHORT, FIGHTING IS GOOD SO LONG AS IT IS EXPRESSED IN PROTECTION, SAFETY, AMUSEMENT AND IN COMBATS ETC. BUT IT IS NO GOOD WHEN IT HURTS A PERSON THAN BRINGING IN CORRECTION OR BETTERMENT. IT IS HARMFUL TO THE PERSONS HIT AT AND IT IS BAD ALSO TO THE PERSON WHO IS HITTING. THE HITTING PERSON WILL GET AGITATED FROM SMALL TO BIG AND THE DIFFERENCES IN ANY AND EVERY FORM EXPRESSED AND CONTINUED AS IT IS LIKE TIT FOR TAT, TO TEACH LESSON, TO DEFEAT SO STRONG THAT THE OPPONENT IS CRUSHED SO HARD THAT HE/SHE IS NOT LEFTWITH ANY CAPABILITY OR CAPACITY TO STRIKE BACK AGAIN.THE HURT COULD BE FINANCIAL, PHYSICAL ETC. NOW LOOKING AT THE PURPOSE AND CONSEQUENCES OF FIGHT, ONE WILL GET TO REALISE SOONER OR LATER THAT FIGHTING HAS HARMED HIM/HER IN EFFECT AS HARD AS TO THE SO CALLED ENEMY, BUT TO HIM/HER AS WELL TO A GREAT EXTENT RESULTING IN -FEAR -RECOLLECTION/REPENTENCE -HIGH HANDEDNESS AND ITS RESULTS NOW AS SUCH QUESTION ARISES AS TO HOW FIGHT COULD BE AVOIDED: -REALISATION THAT FIGHT DOES MORE HARM THAN GOOD -FIGHT COULD TAKE TO REVENGE, FLARING UP SOONER OR LATER, AGAIN AND AGAIN ETC. -BRING IN TEMPORARY SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS WHILE EVENTUALLY SHALL TURN OUT HARMFUL IN SOME FORM OR THE OTHER. AND WHEN THIS REALISATION COMES TO A PERSON AND ALSO THE STRONGER HE/SHE BECOMES, THE LESSOR ONE WILL RESORT TO FIGHT AND FINALLY SHALL NEVER THINK OF WAGING A FIGHT. IT IS POSSIBLE I MAY BE ASKED HOW I WILL EXPLAIN ABOUT THE FARMERS AGITATION, IS IT NOT A FIGHT..... MY REPLY IS TO TELL THAT AGITATION IS NOT PERSONAL ENEMITY, IT IS MODE TO EXPLAIN THEIR DIFFICULTIES AND TO GET ANSWERS THEREFOR. -I COULD ALSO BE ASKED WHAT ABOUT ONE'S OWN CHILDREN, WHEN THEY COME TO FIGHTING, I WILL SAY IT WILL BE BETTER TO EXPLAIN AND IF NOT AGREED, ACCEPT TO WHAT THEY ARE FIGHTING FOR AND LEAVE IT TO THEM FOR CONSEQUENCES, GOOD OR BAD. HENCE TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCE ARE THE BEST ANSWER. -ALSO AS THERE WAS NO UNDERSTANDING EXCEPT THE FIGHT, THEN IT WILL BE BETTER THAT HUSBAND AND WIFE LIVE ALONE ON THEIR OWN AND THUS LEAVE THE FIGHTING CHILDREN TO THEIR FATE, -ALSO IF THERE IS FIGHT BETWEEN HUSBAND AND THE WIFE, THEN THE SOLUTION WILL BE -TO DO ALL TO SAVE THE MARRIAGE -TO MOULD ONESELF WHICH IS MUCH EASIER THAN TO EXPECT THE OTHER PERSON TO CHANGE AS THE SUPPOSED AGREED PERSON WISHES. -TO REALISE THAT PERHAPS THE FUTURE WILL NOT BE BETTER THAN THE PRESENT ONE, ETC, ETC, CONCLUSION; THE FIGHT AND FIGHTINGS ARE NO GOOD AND THE ANSWER LIES IN: -EXPLANATION AND ACCEPTANCE -IF NOT UNDERSTOOD AND THE OTHER PARTY IS ADAMANT, BETTER IGNORE HIM/HER. -LASTLY, IF ALL FAILS, RECONCILE AND ACCEPT SUCH HAPPENINGS AS CYCLE OF LIFE. -BELIEVE IN YOUR OWN HAPPINESS WHICH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN INCURRING PERHAPS SOME FINANCIAL LOSSES, DISOBEDIENCE, ARROGANCE ETC. ETC. ................................................................... by vasdevloond founder of marriage guidance new concept, cost free marriage bureau, certified for copyrights for its logo and name, to contact vasdevloond 9811943867, vasdevloond@gmail.com www.marriageguidance.in www.facebook.com