ENEMY HOW IT HAPPENS, HOW IT CAN BE AVOIDED AND HOW IT CAN BE RECONCILED TO WORKING RELATIONS; -ENEMITY HAPPENS DUE TO 1. SOME LOSS 2. JEALOUSIES 3. CONTINUATION OF PREVIOUS PARENTAL OR OTHER CONFLICTS 3. VENGENCE 4. DIFFERENT BEIEFS AND DIFFERENT VIEWPOINTS 5. COMPETITIVE, RESIDENTIAL, NEIGHBOURHOOD, 6. FIANCIE 7. BETRAYAL OF LOVE, FRIENDSHIP ETC. 8. THERE CAN SO MANY REASONS, JUSTIFIED OR UNJUSTIFIED. -TO BEAR ENEMITY IS VERY HARMFUL, IT IS DESTRUCTIVE AND IN EXTREME LEADS TO DEATH AS WELL. -IS IT ESSENTIAL TO REMAIN ENEMY ALL THE TIME AND/OR AFTER AVENGING AND CUASING THE DESIRED LOSS OR INJURY,IS IT FORGOTTEN. -NOT AT ALL, IT CONTINUES INCREASING MORE AND MORE RATHER THAN DIMISNISHING IN ANY WAY -IT HAPPENS IN THE SAME MANNER AS IT IS SAID THE HARDER YOU HIT A BALL, THE HIGHER IT GOES UP. -EVEN IF THE ENEMY IS AVENGED, DESTROYED OR KILLED, DOES IT BENEFIT SUCH A PERSON IN ANY FORM -NO NOT AT ALL, EXCEPT THAT ONE SATISFIES HIS/ HER EGO -BUT LET IT NOT BE FORGOTTEN THAT HE/SHE INVITES FEAR ALMOST ALL THE TIME OF RETALIATION IN SOME FORM OR THE OTHER. -AND ALSO LOSES PEACE OF MIND CONSTANTLY -PERHAPAS REPENTANCE AT SOME STAGE OR THE OTHER, MOSTLY IN OLD AGE -AND ALSO WHEN HE/SHE FINDS NONE TO HELP HIM/HER IN HIS/HER HARD TIMES. -THEN THE QUESTION ARISES IS THERE ANY SOLUTION TO GET RID OF/FINISH ENEMITY AND BRING ABOUT NORMAL/DISTANT RELATIONS? -FOR RECONCILIATION, IT CAN HAPPEN WHEN INITIATIVE IS TAKEN BY THE PERSON WHO HAS AVENGED, AND/OR MADE THE ENEMY SUFFER. -IT IS VERY DIFFICULT THAT THE WINNER WILL EVER TAKE SUCH AN INITIATIVE EXCEPT IN SITUTIONS AS UNDER: -HE FEELS THAT NOW WHAT RESULT AND CONSEQUENCES HE/SHE WANTED, HAS BEEN ACHIEVED AND THAT THERE IS NOTHING LEFT TO AVENGE, IT IS BETTER TO RECONCILE THAN CONTINUE ENEMITY WHICH COULD AFFECT HIM/HER AT ANY TIME OR ITS CONTINUATION COULD AFFECT HIS/HER CHILDREN AFTER HIS/HER DEATH -WHEN HE/SHE HAS GOT WEAKENED IN HEALTH, FINANCIALLY AND/OR IN SOME OTHER MANNER, IT IS POSSIBLE THAT ONE WILL THINK OVER TO RECONCILE THAN TO CONTINUE AS ONE DOES NOT KNOW WHEN HIS ENEMY WILL ATTACK HIM -IT IS POSSIBLE HIS OWN FAMILY OR INTERMEDIARIES DO PERSUADE HIM/HER TO RECONCILE AS THE FEAR THAT IF NOT RECONCILED. POSSIBLYHIS/HER CHILDREN COULD BE HARMED WHILE GOING TO AND COMING FROM SCHOOL ETC. -SOME CLOSE INTERMEDIARY OR CLOSE FRIEND DO INFLUENCE BETTER TO RECONCILE THAN CONTINUE TIHIS ENEMITY -LIFE IS SHORT, ONE DOES NOT KNOW WHEN THE END WILL COME, BETTER TO FORGET WHAT HAPPENED, HOW AND WHY IT HAPPENED AND THAT IT IS BETTER TO LEAVE HIS/HER CHILDREN TO LIVE IN PEACE RATHER THAN IN FEAR. -IT CAN ALSO BE SELF INTROSPECTION AS ONE’S SITUATIONS AND FEELINGS DO NOT REMAIN THE SAME ALL THE TIME NOW THAT DECISION HAS BEEN TAKEN TO RECONCILE, THEN QUESTION ARISES HOW TO DO IT? -NOT AND NEVER GET ALONE TO THE ENEMY IN HIS/HER HOUSE OR ANY OTHER PLACE -TINKLING ETC. COULD BE SENT THROUGH SOME INTERMEDIALY WHO HAS GOOD RELEATIONS WITH BOTH THE PARTIES -IT IS POSSIBLE THAT AFTER HEARING AND LEARNING ABOUT THE INTENTION OF HIS/HER ENEMY TO RECONCILE AND ALSO BY DISCUSSION AND PERSUASION BY THE INTERMEDIARY, IDEA OF RECONCILIATION ALSO FILTERS IN HI/HER MIND TO START AN ATTEMPT, IF IT HAPPENS SO GOOD, AND IF NOT, HE/SHE IS NOT GOING TO LOSE ANY MORE THAN AS THE SITUATION IS AT PRESENT. -THUS BY CONTINUOUS EFFORTS TO AND FRO BY THE INTERMEDIARY AND PERSUASION, DISCUSSIONS ALL THE TIME, COULD LEAD TO RECONCILIATION AS IT IS SAID IF ONE CONTINUES TALKING AND COMMUNICATING EVERY TIME, THERE IS NO DOUBT REFLECTION HAPPENS, AND THE RIGITY STARTS WITHERING AWAY. -WHEN IDEA TO MEET AND EMBRACE COMES FORTH FROM BOTH THE PARTIES, THEN THE INTERMEDIARY MAY ARRANGE THE MEET OF BOTH REMAINING CONSCIOUS AND ALERT THAT NONE OF THEM IS CARRING SOME ARM TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF SUCH A SITUATION OF MEETING -IT IS POSSIBLE THAT TO START WITH THERE WILL CERTAINLY HAPPEN SOME DISCUSSIONS AND ARGUMENTS TO DEFEND BY EACH OF THEM BUT SOON AFTER HAVING VENTILATED THEIR GRIEVANCES, THEIR INTENTION TO RECONCILE WILL PREVAIL SUPPORTED BY THE INTERMEDIARY WITH SUGGESTIONS, COUNTER SUGGESTINS. ARGUMENTS, REASONS ETC. ETC. -IT IS SAID WHEN THERE IS A WILL, THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY -HENCE WHEN THE IDEA AND CONVICTION ABOUT RECONCILIATION HAPPEN. THEN ALL MEANS OF UNDERSTANDING WILL HAPPEN, EGO IF ANY, WILL VANISH ALTOGETHER. …………………………………………………………………………………………………………… Do all never to indulge in estranging or breaking relations which otherwise could cause cause harm sooner or later also keep one disturbed and reflectng most of the time in fear. Even if one is very unhappy and has suffered some sort of injury or loss it is better to forget, avoid meeting and never to indulge into discussion with anyone about how and why it happened etc. etc. and if ever both happen to pass by or be seated in the same place, it is better to say hello and move away than avoiding or look at all the time..