CHILDREN GENERALLY BLAMCE THEIR PARENTS, WHO SO -IN YOUNG AGE, BLAME IS MORE THAN AT A LATER AGE -WHY IN THE LATER AGE, AS BY THAT TIME CHILD GETS HIS/HER OWN EXPERIENCE IN HIS/HER LIFE BY HIS/HER CHILDREN -IF CHILDREN FAIL TO PROGRESS, THEY BLAME THE PARENTS ALL THE REASONS FOR THEIR FAILURE, FOR EXAMPLE -THEY HAVE BEEN BUSY IN THEIR WORK AND NEVER BOTHERED FOR US AS TO WHAT WE WERE DOING IN STUDIES, HOW WE WERE BULLIED AND FRIGHTENED BY OTHER CHILDREN, ETC.ETC. -THEY WERE INCLINED FOR A JOB/VOCATION OF THEIR LIKING BUT PARENTS INSISTED WHAT THEY HAD WISHED FOR, WORK IN THEIR BUSINESS ETC., WITH NO CONSIDERATION FOR OUR LIKING OR DISLIKING. -THEY INSISTED ON THEIR OWN THEIR EXPERIENCE, THEIR IDEOLOGY AND THEIR PHILOSOPHY WHILE THE PRESENT TIMES ARE ALTOGETHER DIFFERENT, DIFFERENT APPROACHES AND DIFFERENT WAYS OF HANDLINGS ARE REQUIRED. -THEY CRITICISED FOR OUR WEAR, HABITS, WAY OF HAIR DRESSING, MOVING AND FREQUENTING AS BOY AND GIRL, COMING LATE, NEVER GET TO NIGHT CLUBS ETC, ALL SUCH SITUATIONS THEY HATED AND FELT THAT THESE ARE ANNOYING. -THEY HAD OLD FASHIONED THINKING AS PER THEIR TIME, BUT NOT ONLY BOTHERED WHAT CHANGES THE PRESENT AGE HAS TAKEN PLACE IN INVENTIONS, FASHIONS, WAY OF LIVING AND SOCIALISING ETC. THEY HAD THEIR OWN MORAL VALUES AND RESTRICTED US IN SO MANY WAYS, WITHOUT REALISING THE MORE FREELY WE WILL MOVE OUT, THE MORE KNOWLEDGE OF THE OUTSIDE WORLD WE WILL GAIN AND WILL EASILY MATCH AND/OR MEET THE REQUIREMENTS OF THE PRESENT TIMES. -IN MARRIAGE, THEY BELIEVED IN THEIR OLD SYSTEM, THAT THEY WILL CHOOSE OUR SOULMATES AND WE WERE SUPPOSED TO ACCEPT WHAT THEY SAID, IS GOOD FOR OUR LIFE RATHER THAN WE WERE ALLOWED TO MAKE OUR OWN CHOICE, WHILE IN THE PRESENT TIMES, WE THOUGHT TO LIVE BY BOY AND GIRL FRIENDSHIP RELATIONS AND THEREAFTER WE WERE TO DECIDE WITH WHOM TO MARRY OR NOT TO MARRY. IN CONTRAST, THE PARENTS THINK THAT: -WORST OF ALL, THESE CHILDREN NEVER BLAME THESELVES FOR THEIR SET-BACKS AND FAILURES AND INSTEAD BLAME AND ACCUSE US AS PARENTS THAT WE DID NOT LISTEN THEM AND FORCED THEM TO ADAPT AND ACCEPT WHAT WE THOUGHT ABOUT US TO BE RIGHT, THE CHILDREN INSTEAD THINK THAT AS SUCH THE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR THINKING AND INSISTENCE WE ARE BEARING, AS A RESULT THEREOF TODAY NEITHER THEY ARE HAPPY NOR ARE WE. -ON THE CONTRARY WE FIND SOME OF OUR FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES WHOSE PARENTS WERE OPEN MINDED, THEY HAVE PROGRESSED QUITE WELL IN LIFE IN WHATEVER SPHERE THEY ARE. -IN CONTRAST, PARENTS THINK AND ARGUE ALWAYS THAT THEY DID THE BEST WHAT THEY COULD DO, WHAT THEY KNEW OR HAD THE EXPERIENCE BUT NEVER TO FORGET THAT WHAT THEY DID THEY DID ALL IN LOVE AND FOR THE BENEFIT OF THEIR CHILDREN AND IF IN THE MEANTIME CIRCUMSTANCES HAVE CHANGED AND AS SUCH, THEIR CHILDREN HAVE NOT PROGRESSED AND/OR ARE SUFFERING IT IS LEFT TO THEM AND THAT THEYHAVE NOTHING MORE TO SAY OR ADD TO WHAT THEY DID. WHILE THE CHILDREN BELIEVE AND TELL IT VEHEMENTLY THAT IT IS BECAUSE OF THEIR PARENTS’ THINKING, INSISTENCE AND/OR IMPOSED DECISIONS, WE ARE SUFFERING TODAY. . -IN CONCLUSION I BELIEVE, THE CHILDREN ARE WRONG AS EACH AND EVERY PARENT DOES THE BEST FOR THE WELFARE AND HAPPINESS OF HIS/HER CHILDREN AND TAKES DECISION IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF THEIR CHILDREN. IT IS POSSIBLE IN THE MEANTIME CURCUMSTANCES HAVE CHANGED AND THE DECISIONS TAKEN BY THEIR PARENTS, DO NOT MATCH TO WHAT THE CHILDREN HAD BEEN WISHING OR ARE WISHING EVEN NOW, THE CHILDREN TOTALLY FORGET THAT THEIR PARENTS LOVED THEM THE MOST, DID ALL AND TOOK THE DECISIONS AS PER THEIR EXPERIENCE AND AS PER THEIR RESOURCES. IN SHORT, IT IS HUMAN NATURE TO BLAME OTHERS FOR THEIR FAILURES. THEY REALISE, UNDERSTAND AND APPRECIATE ONLY WHEN EITHER THEY SUFFER, MEET CERTAIN SETBACKS, EXPERIENCE THE SAME AND/OR SIMILAR ATTITUDES AND INSISTENCE BY THEIR OWN CHILDREN OR WHEN THE PARENTS ARE NO MORE AND SUCH CHILDREN FIND NONE TO EXPERESS AS TO HOW MUCH THEY ARE SUFFERING, IT IS ONLY THEN AND AT THAT TIME OF SUFFERANCE, THAT THESE CHILDREN APPRECIATE AND ADMIRE HOW HARD THEIR PARENTS HAD TO WORK FOR THEIR UPBRINGING, EDUCATION ETC. IT IS ALSO IMPORTANT THAT PARENTS MUST LISTEN TO THEIR CHILDREN WHATEVER AND IN WHAT MANNER THEIR CHILDREN EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS AND SUFFERANCES, THE PARENTS MUST NOT REPLY TO DEFEND THEMSELVES EXCEPT TO SAY THAT THEY TOOK DECISIONS AS THEY THOUGHT WERE THE BEST FOR THEM, IF OUR DECISIONS HAVE NOT BEEN BENEFICIAL IN ANY MANNER, WE REGRET AND FEEL SORRY FOR THAT. LET US FORGET THE PAST AND NEVER RAKE THESE UP IN ORDER TO MAINTAIN OUR RELATIONS AS BEST AS WE CAN. …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. By vasdevloond, founder of cost free marriage bureau, titled Marriage Guidance New Concept Contact 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com