CHANGE WE ALL LOVE, BUT WHAT ABOUT COUPLES? -TRUE, THERE IS NO DOUBT, WE ALL LOVE CHANGE AND CONTINUE DOING IN THE FOLLOWING MANNER; -FASHION WEAR -SEASON WEAR - -DECORATIONS - -BEAUTY PRODUCTS - EATING AND EDIBLES - TO RELAX AND ENJOY, GET TO RESORTS, HOTELS ETC. - TAKE TO TRAVEL ETC. - DO SOCIAL GATHERINGS TO CHANGE MONOTONY AND ROUTINE. -EVEN WHEN WE GET TIRED OF OUR LIVING IN THE SAME HOUSE AND WITH SAME FURNISHINGS, WE CLEAN AND CHANGE THE PLACE OF FURNITURE, CHANGE BEDSEETS, ADD AND REPLACE UNTENSILS ETC. ETC. WHICH HELPS US TO LOOK DIFFERENTLY AND ENJOY ALL THESE ITEMS PLACED AT DIFFERENT PLACES AND IN DIFFERENT MANNER. WHEN WE FEEL AND ENJOY CHANGE AS CITED ABOVE AND MUCH MORE, IS ESSENTIAL, THEN WHY NOT CHANGE IN THE COUPLES, IS ARGUED BY EASON; -THOSE DUE TO CERTAIN REASONS WHICH COULD BE MANY, LIKE GETTING FASCINATED AND ENTANGLED WITH AND FOR SOMEONE ELSE, DO ADVANCE THIS REASONING OF CHANGE WHICH THEY SAY IS ESSENTIAL TO AVOID ROUTINE AND MONOPOLY. -THOSE WHO WANT TO DIVORCE DUE TO ESTRANGED RELATIONS IN ARGUMENTS, CONFLICTS, FIGHTS ETC. CANNOT PULL ON TO LIVE TOGETHER, DO ADVANCE THIS REASON, IT IS BETTER TO DIVORCE AND CHOSE SOMEONE ELSE AS NOW WE HAVE ALL EXPERIENCE OF LIFE AND KNOW WELL WHAT WE WANT. -SUCH A SITUATION ARISES IN EARLY STAGE OF MARRIAGE OR AFTER THE CHILDREN GET GROWN UP AND FOR EDUCATION, WORK ETC. LIVE APART, CONFLICTS GENERALLY TAKE PLACE, AND THE REASONING FOR DECISION TO CHANGE BECOMES THE ARGUMENT AND POSSIBLY ESSENTIAL SOLUTION AS WELL. -LOVE IS RECEDING AND IS BEING ACCEPTED IN EARLY RELATIONSHIP OF BOY AND GIRL, ADDED AND ACCELERATED BY ALL TYPES OF CONTRACEPTIVES ETC. ETC. -STATUS, FINANCIAL RESOURCES, CIRUMSTANCES ARE ALSO INDUCING CHANGE OF LOVE OR ARE CUASING ABDICATION OF ONE’S LOVE , FOR CHANGE TO ANOTHER. -MEDIA, TRAVEL, CO-EDUCATION, LAWS, WORKPLACES, ARE ADDING TO TEMPTATIONS AND THINKING THAT LOVE IS JUST A THINKING AND CREATION OF HUMAN BEINGS, TO KEEP A MONOPOLISTIC AND POSSESSIVE INSTINCT THAN THE REALITY OF LOVE WHICH IS EMOTIONAL AND MOVES ON BY ATTRACTION WHICH COULD BE FACIAL, COLOUR, STATURE, POSITION ETC. ALSO BY FATIGUE WITH ONE AND LIKING FOR THE OTHER. NO DOUBT ALL THESE ARE REAL FACTORS AND ALSO THERE IS NO DOUBT AS SUCH., -LOVE WHICH WAS RECITED IN POEMS IN OLDEN TIMES EXISTS NO MORE -RATHER IT IS CHANGE TO CONVENIENCE AND ALL OTHER FACTORS CITED ABOVE. AS SUCH THE QUESTION ARISES WHETHER IT IS THE RIGHT THINKING ABOUT CHANGE IN COUPLES OR NOT? I THINK THAT THOSE WHO ADVANCE SUCH AN ARGUMENT AND ALSO BELIEVE IN IT AND BELIEVE IN THIS MANNER AND ADVANCE IN THIS DIRECTION, DO NOT KNOW AND/ OR DO NOT REALISE THE CONSEQUENCES OF CHANGE IN COUPLES AS SUCH IT IS ESSENTIAL TO HIGHLIGHT THE REASONS AND BRING OUT THE CONSEQUENTIAL EFFECT IF EVER SUCH CHANGE IS BROUGHT ABOUT. THESE ARE AND COULD BETHE FOLLOWING: -HUMAN MIND IS AN X-RAY, IT NEVER FORGETS THE PAST, ESPECIALLY WHEN CIRCUMSTANCES AND BEHAVIOURS DO NOT HAPPEN AS ONE HAD ASPIRED IF AND WHEN THIS INHIBITION AND POSSESSIVENESS OF HUSBAND AND WIFE IS BROKEN AND IS CROSSED OVER, THERE IS NO RESTRICTION OR STOPPAGE TO CHANGE FROM ONE TO THE OTHER AND SO ON, ILLICITLY OR OPENLY. - NO CHANGE AND TO LIVE LIFE LONG BY PARENTS AS HUSBAND AND WIFE ADDS TO THE MORAL VALUES FOR THE CHILDREN TO MOVE ON AND BEHAVE IN THE SAME MANNER IN THEIR LIFE - IT IS THE LOVE WHICH KEEPS THE HUSBAND-WIFE AND THE CHILDRN ATTACHED AND BONDED TOGETHER FOR PROGRESS, HAPPINESS, DEPENDENCE AND IN ADVERSITIES. THERE ARE MANY INSTANCES AND EXPERIENCES THAT THOSE WHO OPT FOR CHANGE IN COUPLE RELATIONSHIP, THE TOTAL FABRIC OF RELATIONSHIP BECOMES FRAGILE AND EVEN BROKEN, AND WHENEVER THEY MEET, THEY MEET WITH EACH OTHER, ESPECIALLY THE CHILDREN, AS THEY MEET SOME OF THEIR FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES, JUST EAT, TALK AND MOVE ON EACH ONE IN HIS/HER OWN WAY AS IF THEY DO NOT KNOW EACH AND/OR DO NOT WANT TO KNOW ABOUT AND REMEMBER ABOUT IT. In conclusion: change in couples whoever think as such I believe, are bereft of knowledge or experience and if ever it so happens, it remains just a living arrangement of convenience rather than an emotional love, which develops and creates the feeling to do all sorts of sacrifices to keep the love relationship intact, which in other words is said to be DO AND DIE TOGETHER ALL THE TIME AND FOR EVER. …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….. BY VASDEVLOOND, FOUNDER OF COST FREE MARRIAGE BUREAU TITLED MARRIAGE GUIDANCE NEW CONCEPT CONTACTS; 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com.