ADVICE WHETHER TO GIVE, WHOM TO GIVE AND WHEN TO GIVE. -MOST IMPORTANT, ADVICE NEEDS TO BE GIVEN IF ONE KNOWS THE SUBJECT CLEARLY. -THAT IS WHY PROFESSIONALS EXIST -AND DEPENDING ON OUR PROBLEM WE ASK THE CONCERNED PROFESSIONALS FOR EXAMPLE. LAWYERS FOR LEGAL MATTERS AND IN THAT, THE MATTER CONCERNS WHICH IS THE SPECIFIC TOPIC, SAME IS THE CASE FOR DOCTORS ETC. ETC. -ADVICE NEEDS TO BE GIVEN TO THOSE WHO NEED IT AND FOR WHOM WE THINK IT WILL BE IN HIS/HER INTEREST EMOTIALLY, IN RELATIONSHIP, WORK ETC. -THOSE WHO NEED IT, WILL DEFINITELY BE CONDUCIVE AND ATTENTIVE TO LISTEN. -AND FOR WHOM WE THINK THAT ADVICE IS TO BE GIVEN, COULD BE FRIENDS, RELATIONS. NEIGHBOURS, COLLEAGUES, EVEN TO ENEMIES IF SO DESIRED AND IF WE ARE CONVINCED,TO CHILDREN ETC. IF WE THINK, IT IS FOR THE BENEFIT OF UNKNOWN AS WELL. POSSIBLY WE WOULD LIKE TO ASK AND IF INTERESTED, WILL ADVISE AFTER HEARING HIS/HER PROBLEM. -WHEN ADVICE TO GIVE, RELATES TO: -WHEN ONE IS INTERESTED -WHEN ONE IS REALLY KEEN AND FEELS THAT WE WILL BE ABLE TO GIVE THE RIGHT AND IMPARTIAL ADVICE. -ENVIRONMENTS AND CIRCUMSTANCES WHETHER IT IS THE RIGHT TIME WHEN ONE IS FREE MIND AND IS NOT DISTURBED BY SOME OTHER PROBLEMS ETC. -WHERE TO GIVE (a) MUST ENSURE THAT TO AN INDIVIDUAL ADVICE IS GIVEN WHEN THE INDIVIDUAL IS ALONE, NOT AND NEVER IN THE PRESENCE OF ANYONE ELSE (b) IT THERE ARE TWO OR MANY OR A GROUP, THEN IT IS ESSENTIAL TO LISTEN AND BETTER TO TAKE THEIR VIEWS IN ADVANCE, AND THEN ADVISE BUT TO DO SO AFTER SYNTHASISING ALL THE QUESTIONS/INTERROGATIONS. © AFTER GIVEN ADVICE, INVITE QUESTIONS FORM THOSE WHO ARE INTERESTED AND TO REPLY TO EACH OF THEM ONE BY ONE (d) FINALLY TO SUM UP, CLEARLY REFLECT OVER ALL THE QUESTIONS, INTERROGATIONS/ DOUBTS, ETC. AND ADVISE AS PERFECTLY AND CORRECTLY AS ONE CAN (e) IF STILL SOME DOUBTS ARE LEFT AND IF WE ARE NOT VERY MUCH CLEAR AND WANT TO TAKE SOME TIME, BETTER TO CALL FOR ANOTHER SESSION AND EXPLAIN AS ALSO ADVISE AS WE THINK, BASED ON OUR EXPERIENCE AND KNOWLEDGE (f) NEVER TO FOREGET, DESPITE ALL EXPLANATIONS AND ADVICE, STILL THERE COULD REMAN SOME QUESTIONS AND DOUBTS WHICH NEED TO BE LISTENED TO AND IN CONCLUSION, TO ADVISE THAT FINALLY AS PER MY VIEW THIS COULD BE THE BEST ANSWER AND THIS IS MY FINAL ADVICE. -ADVICE TO BE GIVEN TO ALL THOSE ABOVE, KNOWN, UNKNOWN AND INTERESTED ONES -BUT IT IS NOT THAT EASY AS FOR FAMILY AND RELATIONS ARE CONCERNED. -IN FAMILY, IN CASE OF WIFE, LISTENING, UNDERSTANDING, DELIBERATION, DISCUSSION, ADVICE IF SHE IS CONVINCED, AND IF NOT TO GET TO MUTUAL AGREEMENT. -AS FOR CHILDREN ARE CONCERNED, WHEN THEY ARE IN THE GROWING AGE, IT IS ESSENTIAL TO LISTEN TO THEM AND ADVISE. -WHEN CHILDREN ARE ADULT AND ARE ON THEIR OWN, IT IS COMPARATIVELY DIFFICULT TO ADVISE. DEPENDING ON THE SUBJECT AND INDIVIDUAL INTERESTS AND VIEWPOINTS THERE COULD BE CONTRADICTIONS. CRITICISM, NON-ACCEPTANCE IN EXTREMES. -IN SUCH A SITUATION, BETTER TO KEEP PATIENCE, WATCH WHAT IS WANTED AND ASKED FOR, THEN BETTER TO ADVISE AND IF IT IS ATTENTIVELY LISTENED AND ACCEPTED, WELL AND GOOD, IF NOT BETTER NEVER TO INSIST AND MUST BELIEVE THAT NOW THEY ARE ADULT, THEY HAVE THEIR OWN VIEWS AND EXPERIENCES, LET US ADVISE WHEN ADVICE IS SOUGHT FOR, AND ONCE SAID, BETTER TO LISTEN WHATEVER IS SAID, NEVER TO CONTRADICT, RATHER DECIDE TO CONCEDE AND KEEP QUIET, INSIST NEVER. -WHEN BROTHERS GET MARRIED AND ARE LIVING TOGETHER OR SEPARATELY, THEN IF LIVING TOGETHER, POSSIBLY OUT OF RESPECT AND MUTUALINTEREST. THEY WILL ACCEPT THE ADVICE, AND IF THEY ARE LIVING SEPARATE AND ARE MARRIED BESIDES ARE ALSO HAVING THERE OWN CHILDREN, ADVISE IF EVER IT IS TO BE GIVEN, IT SHOULD BE TALKED OVER TO BROTHER ALONE, NOT AND NEVER IN THE FAMILY OF YOURS OR HIS AS THE DISCUSSION WILL BE EXCLUSIVE AND SECRETIVE AND POSSIBLY ADVICE WILL BE WELL TAKEN. -IN CASE OF SISTERS WHEN MARRIED, NEVER DISCUSS THEIR PROBLEMS NOR ADVISE, IT IS ONLY IN EXTREME SITUATIONS, AND WHEN THERE IS NO ALTERNATIVE, THEN ADVICE SHOULD BE GIVEN AS OTHERWISE IT IS POSSIBLE IT WILL TURN OUT AN INTERFERENCE IN SISTER’S HOUSE AND HER RELATIONS IN HER FAMILY. -IN SHORT ADVICE IS TO BE GIVEN WHEN ASKED FOR, WHEN ONE NEEDS AND THAT TOO VERY CAREFULLY, JUDICIOUSLY AND TO REMAIN VERY CONSCIOUS THAT IT DOESN’T ANNOY OR IRRITATE THE ONE WHO IS TO BE GIVEN ADVICE. ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………. BY VSDEVLOOND CONTACTS: 9811943867 vasdevloond@gmail.com -